Okay so let me tell you the full story.


I have a cousin who use to be a Wonderful mom.. One of the best moms Ive ever seen. She had her kids kinda young got married and had a good life.  Well one of our other cousins got her started on drugs and my cousin left her house, kids and husband. Started messing around with other men and has been to jail many times for drugs and some other bad stuff. This Cousin use to be there for me when my dad and step mom would kick me out of the house.. Needless to say she was always there for me when I needed her (before the drugs took over)

I moved to KY and had a good life. She called and asked if I could come home for the summer because she had a job and needed me to babysit. I said yes cause I thought she was getting her life together. Well I came out to california just to find myself baby sitting so she could have a good time. I put my foot down and told her I loved her kids but I didnt come out here so she could party. She got so mad... so she thought she would punch me. We got into a huge fight. (she was suppose to pay for my ticket to go back to KY but never did.) So she left me with no where to go.. didnt talk for about a year but I moved on...

Now here she is 33 and homeless nowhere to go and shes 2 weeks from her due date. Pregnant with number 3 and doesnt have the other 2 children.  This childs dad is in Prison and isnt getting out anytime soon.

I took her in this past weekend.. Its been so hard on me.. I know its gotta be on her too.. thats why Im venting here.. Anyways. This baby doesnt have a thing. 1 box of size 1 diapers a couple lil outfits that ive bought and a pack and play (3 in 1) thing that was mine but no longer need. It just breaks my heart and I offered for her to come to my house because the places she was staying were drug houses and its just not fair to the baby. I wanna bye stuff for the baby but my husband tells me I better not and that its not our problem.. Regardless of its mother this baby deserves so much more and it breaks my heart. My cousin is clean now and Im hoping she wont go back. Time can only tell.

I know shes 2 weeks from her due date and I get shes tired and shes in pain from the pressure of the baby but she doesnt wanna do anything. She just sits on the couch. I went to a store yesterday and saw some cute baby stuff loaded up my arm with some stuff and she was more worried about clothes for herself than she was her baby. I just thought that was a little odd.  I had to go to another store to get stuff for dinner.... she wouldnt get out of the car.. I told her its not good for her to sit all the time she needs to get up and move cause sitting is just gonna make it worse.  All day long all she does it sit and watch netflix.. Im even doing her laundry. Dishes were stacked and she wouldnt even load the dish washer.. Idk Im a little annoyed. Ive got 3 kids myself and as of this weekend I will have 5 kids cause my husbands kids will be here.. Needless to say shes suppose to have her 2 kids this weekend. My house is usually clean and right now its looking like pigs live here and Im tired Ive been on the go cleaning and laundry and everything else.. Im tired..

This baby still needs diapers wipes a carseat this baby doesnt have anything and it just breaks my heart. Mom cant get welfare cause shes a drug felon. My husband says we are in no way supporting this kid. Ugg.. what do I do???

If she stays clean I wanna help her.. But she cant keep a job either so Idk what to do.. I just dont know!

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Apr. 14, 2011 at 12:42 PM

  All you can do is be there for her and this baby.  Hopefully she has her life together and is off of drugs.  I hope she received medical attention for her baby, especially if she was doing drugs while pregnant.  It seems she needs to get he priorities straight.  Only time will tell.  I hope to God she realizes just how blessed she is with this baby.  I hope and pray all goes well. 

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Apr. 14, 2011 at 3:09 PM

Thank you. She just started going to the doctors after I got on to her about it. Ive been praying hard for this lil baby girl. She brought a dog with her and cant take care of it..(her words) So If anything maybe she will let the baby stay here if she wants to go back to the party life. I know My husband and I could give her a loving home and with 5 kids she would have tons of brothers and sisters to have fun with. It just breaks my heart.. Thanks for letting me vent ♥

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Apr. 14, 2011 at 4:42 PM

Glad you got her to go to the doctors. She sounds like she'd just be better off for the baby to just let you and your partner have the baby. She can't even care for a dog she needs no babies that's for sure. Kudos to you for steppin' up.

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Apr. 15, 2011 at 2:24 AM

Tough situation...but, you have a life and family of your own. If she isn't helping now...she won't later. If I were you I'd offer to adopt her baby and take her to the closet Women's shelter and let her live her life. They have programs that will help her to do what she needs to do and she will HAVE to do what they ask of her (if she is to stay). You can't be expected to care for her, her baby and do all you are doing. That isn't right or fair to you, your DH or children. I know it will probably be difficult...you sound like a VERY caring person...but, it really is what's best for her (and you). Good Luck!

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