So, I take my son to his 1 year well child visit and all was going well.  She asked me what kind of milk I was giving him right now.  I told her I'm mainly just giving him breastmilk still as he wasn't tolerating the whole milk well. 

"You're crazy!!!!" She tells me.

"What?"  I asked thinking she was going to make a joke.

"I can't believe you are still nursing him!!!  You are a crazy mom!!"  She said rather loudly in my face.

I can't believe she would tell me this!  Especially since she is a family dr and an OBGYN!!! 

She made me feel like I'm a bad mom for nursing my baby.  I told her that I will nurse him until he is ready to stop, or when I am ready to stop (whichever comes first). 

Then, they prick his finger to test for lead and anemia.  He is slightly anemic, and she said loudly in the dr office hallway, "It's probably because of the breastmilk.  It doesn't have enough iron and vitamins in it!"  And she told me to get him vitamins.


I'm bummed that she would tell her patients this.  She should be encouraging mama's to continue to breastfeed their infants/toddlers for the benefits of the babies.  She made me feel like crap!

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Apr. 15, 2011 at 9:51 PM

If this is your regular pediatrician I would think about getting a new one!  I nursed my first child until she was nearly 18mos and would have gone longer but got pregnant with my second child, who also nursed for over a year.  It's your choice.  Maybe the low iron is from the breast milk, but there are supplements that can be given to both you AND the baby.  She should not have made you feel like a bad mom and you should have told her so.

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Apr. 15, 2011 at 10:05 PM

I never breastfed any of my 4 children, but in hindsight, i'm a full on advocate for breastfeeding!! I'm telling my kids about the benefits and i tell anyone who will listen it's the only way to go.  That dr seems really out of touch and a visit to another one is in order.

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Apr. 15, 2011 at 10:27 PM

I breastfed both of my children, it is the best way to go not only is it good for your child its good for the bond between mother and child I went as long has my kids wanted to and if I have another child I be they same way with that one.....You are not a bad mother you are a good one, you love and care for your child and thats all that matters

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Apr. 15, 2011 at 10:49 PM

frustratedthis is y i have yet to find a family doc i like! i exclusively pumped all my milk for my dd for 14 months and i still have 4 months worth frozen! i had at least 3 different docs tell me i was crazy to ep and that it wasnt really breastfeeding!!! oh boy did they get an ear full!

im sorry the doc said that! u are doing a great job and its ur CHOICE!!!!! i would find a new doc if i were u!

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Apr. 15, 2011 at 11:53 PM

What a sucky doctor!  Our pediatrician & I don't always see eye to eye (I don't give a billion vaccines at a time to my babies), but at the 1 year check up (and again at the 18 month one) when I said DD was still nursing her response was something like "That's awesome!  No wonder I only see her at well visits!".  I recall with both kiddos she would give me the head's up about the upcoming typical growth spurts and remind me that they'd probably nurse like little fiends but to just keep nursing and my supply would keep up.  I can deal with the occassional disagreement regarding my choices in vaccines with our doctor because she is so great with the kids, she's a total breastfeeding advocate and she's otherwise really into natural remedies and products whenever possible.  I'm sorry your doc was so unsupportive.  You keep up the good work, Mama, nursing is wonderful for growing babies!


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Apr. 16, 2011 at 2:09 AM

Wow...time for a new Doc! I'm sorry she said that to you!

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Apr. 16, 2011 at 7:52 AM

Thank you mama's!!  Yes, I'm anemic and thats prob why my son is as well.  I should be taking vitamins, and now that I finally got my paycheck, I can get some for him and I, and the rest of the family as well.  The dr is actually pretty good and I hate to change because of the comment, especially since there is slim pickings around here of good drs.  She is normally on board of my choices like delayed and selective vaccines.  Joshua has only had just his 2nd series of vaccines, and I don't use them all.  Plus, I did research in which vaccines carry more harmful chemicals and made sure my son did not have the certain companies that carry them.  I try to make what I feel is the best decisions for him especially since he was a pre term baby with a bit of a rough start in life.  I don't want to make it worse.  I try to improve it if I can.  THanks mamas for your support!

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Apr. 16, 2011 at 9:02 AM

Fire her!

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Apr. 16, 2011 at 10:22 AM

fire her and keep breast feeding. I am supportive of extended nursing.  Find a La Leche group for extended nursing moms and nurslings. I nursed my first born for 4 years and my second born for 3 years. Do what you Know is best for your baby and you!


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Apr. 16, 2011 at 10:58 AM

At one year old, you haven't even nursed full-term yet!  That was a very irresponsible and unprofessional comment.  I breastfed my son for 3-1/2 years, and during that time, he only had a few colds, and two visits to the doctor, aside from well-checks.

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