OK, I'm probably going to piss off a bunch of people and honestly, only a very small part of me cares right now.  One of the things I do and honestly it is fun for me, is run one of the larger message boards here on Cafe. I own the Autism/Asperger's/PDD Awareness message board (AAPA for short).  The admins and I answer tons of questions on and off the board every day. Honestly, I don't mind. I can't speak for them but I really and truly don't mind EXCEPT for the following situation:

1. The question is NOT about autism and is about some IMMEDIATE medical issue or medication.

2. It is a question that can be answered by reading the pamphlet that comes with the medications.

3. It is a question related to said illness or medication that can be googled.

4. When people make the assumption that the people running the board or that are currently on the board are at becon call at 3am when their child is running a 105 fever and asking should they call the doctor.

Peeps, this is my rant: CAFE is NOT, I repeat NOT run by doctors.  There are not experts on 24 hours a day for medical emergencies. EVERY pediatrician has an on call service. If they don't it is called emergency care. We get at least 4-5 questions about medications on the board a week.  Once, one question about a side effect turned out to be a SERIOUS side effect that would have needed immediate medical attention. How did I find out? I typed in google because this poor person got NO answers. And even then, she STILL had not called the doc.  Cafe is NOT a substitute for calling your doctor. Doctors don't charge for a call. They probably would prefer it. AND it is called GOOGLE. When I don't know the answer to something, it is my first choice. If you don't want to bug your pedi, look it up. 9 times out of 10 it will tell you if it is time to call your pediatrician and NOT to post on a message board. Pretty sure I haven't read that anywhere yet: In case of emergency, go to www.cafemom.com and post your issue. A moderator will get to you within 24-48 hours?  Really?

So just some handy rules:

1. Google it yourself first because that is probably what I'm going to do.

2. Still can't find the answer for a MEDICATION OR MEDICAL issue? Call your pharmacy.

3. Still no answer? Call your pediatrician.

You can bump your post 900 times at 3am. You probably won't get an answer until morning when all of us tired moms wake up. So who better to bug than the pediatrician that is paid to stay awake to answer these questions.

While I'm at it we can't:

Recommend medications or give doses of medications. We're not doctors. Damn it Jim, I'm a psychologist not a doctor. Can't be of much help there. Doses come in all different measures from the height/weight of your child, age of child and symptomology. Then there are other allergies to medications and foods to take into consideration. Catch my drift? We simply can't do it.

Now, got behavior questions, funny things to tell us, need help with behavior plans, OT advice, advocacy advice, education advice, heck plain old mommy advice-go for it. We can give ideas it is YOUR choice on what to do once the advice is given. But I couldn't hold it in anymore because I am just waiting for the time that another mom ignores a serious side effect of a medication waiting for someone to answer a post on a message board. Peeps, docs get the big bucks for a reason. Call them, for the safety of your own little one.

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Apr. 17, 2011 at 9:51 PM


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Apr. 18, 2011 at 2:06 AM

yes ma'am that is sound advice!

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 11:01 AM


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Apr. 18, 2011 at 12:59 PM


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Apr. 18, 2011 at 1:21 PM


It is a very sad fact that more than half the posting on this entire site could be avoided with simple google searches. It isn't just these very important, scary situations that you mention here.

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 1:47 PM

Very good!

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 1:48 PM

you rock

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 2:55 PM

 I have often wondered the same thing,  

high five

Star Trek fan, huh? 

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 4:11 PM

I love this. I have written articles for blogs and online groups and sometimes they are general medical articles. Notice the word "general." I can research what a disease or condition is. I can even interview a medical expert to give information on how that condtion MIGHT be treated. I cannot tell you if that mole under your arm is melanoma, nor do I know if your digestive upset is irritable bowel syndrome. And yet, the comment sections under the articles is generally a continuous string of "I've had diarrhea for six months...what could it be?"

I also find it amazing the type of personal information people are willing to share about their bodily fluids, but that's a whole 'nother topic.

What people also don't seem to realize is: Even if you WERE a doctor, you couldn't give medical advice via Internet forum. You can't examine someone that way. If a doctor did do that and he or she was wrong, that would be a lawsuit waiting to happen.

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 4:22 PM

I'm kind of apalled that you even HAD to write this journal out. That scares me for our future, because apparently common sense is becoming less and less common. More people should read this. I'm voting popular. =)

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