I haven't been married to my second husband very long, but I am already thinking about divorce. I am a SAHM to my 4 year old son from my previous marriage and am 34 weeks pregnant with my second son. I am already 1 centimeter dilated. My husband works 5 days a week and is off on Sat and Sundays. I know he likes to spend his off days relaxing, but it is getting to a breaking point with me. I am the only one of us that is doing any cooking, cleaning, laundry and other stuff around the house. I have asked him for 3 weeks to get under the dining room table and get the poop up from the dog. Well, today I finally had enough and got down there with a bleach/water mixture and got it up. He doesn't clean anything, yet he gets mad when I complain about him not helping. Also, he doesn't help me with my son until I am ready to scream at my son. I don't like getting that worked up, but I am so tired of doing everything myself and him not helping. I don't want to go through another divorce, but i am starting to feel like I have no choice. I feel like a single parent anyways so it wouldn't be any different.  I love him, but I can't live like this anymore. I have tried calmly talking to him, angrily talking to him, and even fighting with him. Nothing changes. I don't want to have to go through a second divorce, but I don't think I have any other choice.


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Apr. 17, 2011 at 11:01 PM

I would communicate with him how you feel. I wouldnt get divorced over not having a clean house.

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 12:02 AM

I have talked to him how i feel. He says that because I don't work, then all the housework falls to me.

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