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I am writing a letter to my dad to get things off my chest but how do you politely say "Hey dad thanks for letting me know you have a disease that's killing you I really enjoyed hearing it from my brothers ex girlfriend". Ya I am bitter it hurts that I didn't find out from him or someone in the family. My son loves my father very much and my dad won't be around much longer. We have had our issues recently hence why I am writing a letter to get things off my chest. If my dad passes away I will be emotionally distraught I love my dad even tho we have had our ups and downs especially as of late. It sucks I think I am gonna lose it. I know ALS after diagnosis has 3-5 yrs after diagnosis you have to live but my dad is already needing to use things to help him get around. My great uncle (his uncle) died of the same thing. I am going to get tested to see if I have the gene as well sometime in the future. My uncle is getting tested too he's the one who told me about my great uncle dying of the same thing. I think I am gonna lose my mind. If anyone has any info about ALS and would like to share with me I have been researching it since I found out but personal experiences with it will help greatfully.

Thanks

Me

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lola760
Apr. 18, 2011 at 12:25 AM

I am sorry, that is alot to harbor inside. The best advice I can give on something as serious as this is to be completely honest. Leave nothing out, you would only regret later. I wish you the best of luck on reconciling with your father!

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biker...
Apr. 18, 2011 at 1:49 AM

sorry no help here. you and your family are in my prayers

i do know how you feel in the terms of a parent dying of a disease. my dad was diagnoses over two years ago with lung cancer. i found out from my stepmom cause my dad isn't the type of guy to worry you with what he think of as "his problems" not yours kinda attitude. he had done cemo and radiation and was going to do surgery to remove it. when they started the surgery that was suppose to take at least five hours they came out within and hour and told my stepmom there was nothing they could do. it was spread more then they thought. he was given six months to a year to live. well so far my dad had exceeded the doctors expectations. its gotten a lot worse here recently he's taking more pain meds and from the latest news my stepmom has told me they are going to do more cemo just to slow it down. when i asked her how long they gave him this time they told her "six month to a year" but he has lived a lot longer then they had expected the first time around and the doctors are really not sure cause my dad is a stubborn butt.

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kaits...
Apr. 18, 2011 at 2:05 PM

I think a letter is a great idea. Its a way to tell someone your thoughts without emotions and tempers getting in the way. As for advice, I think you should just be open and honest about how you feel.

I dont know anything about the disease but yall are in my prayers. :)

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acastle2
Apr. 18, 2011 at 8:58 PM

thanks ladies its still hard to write the letter its going to take me awhile to do it you know

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