So my 13 year old daughter started her period when she was 9. She didnt have alot of cramps and stuff like that .. but she had terribly heavy bleeding and lots of clotting. I was concerned and she saw a Gyn. and all he said was that she needed the Gardisil shots. I didnt know alot about that at the time and read over the paper work that they gave me and decided to go ahead and let her get them. Then I saw and heard all the negative about them ..

Now she is 13 ..cramping so bad that she throws up and still has the heavy bleeding and clotting. She was seen by her primary physican and he tested her for PCOS among other things and said that she needed to be on birth control. I almost flipped out! I know to some that this is not a big deal. We are a Christian family and I am not sure how I feel about it. He said that he would set her up with his associate whom is a female. So.. I did feel better about that .. but why cant you just prescribe them for her?? She will have to have a pap done first.. Oh but no .. she is 13.. she is too little for that .. even though she looks like she is 17.. she is still too little lol.. so I cancelled the appointment. We have had the discussion that IF she does get on birth control.. in no way is this saying that its ok to have sex.. protected or otherwise. In no way is this saying that you can go out and tell all your friends that you have this medicine. And in no way is this saying that you are an adult and can act like one. This is in hopes of fixing your terrible periods. She hasnt decided if she is ok with the idea yet especially having to have a pap done. 

I have a fear that there is something more going on with her. She is always tired. Never feels good. Always has a headache and I never see her. She is always in her bed, reading a book when she is not at school. He has tested her for diabetes among MANY other things and she has always tested negative. My mom tells me that maybe I do need to get her pap done because there could be something there that might explain some of the things that she is going through. I am not sure what to do .. if anyone has any advise or anything helpful.. please do share it . But please dont critisize any of my decisions or my need to ask for this advise.. I just want whats best for her. And this is something that is VERY new to me .. I havent dealt with it and really am not sure what to do ... thanks in advance.

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Apr. 19, 2011 at 12:08 AM

Make sure you also do a full panel on her thyroid (it's not usually done until mid 40's) but I had my thyroid removed when I was 19. This hormone contributes to so much. She may also have endometriosis or another growth - this is generally only diagnosed via exploritory surgery. 

It could also simply be depression because she's in pain. Please if she's that bad get her help ASAP. My Mom never had a bad cycle ever and didn't believe me. I've been hospitalized because mine was so bad. I'd try and find a specialist for her. 

Good luck!

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Apr. 19, 2011 at 10:59 AM

Ok ... I will definately tell her dr to check that out ... I will also be looking for a specialist today!! I am sorry that yours was so bad as well... maybe they can figure out something for her as well! Thank you very much for the advice!

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Apr. 20, 2011 at 12:13 AM

I had to face the same decision with both my girls and the doctors here said they only had to have paps if they were sexually active, Now i know this is another way to check for abonormaties however, I would save the PAP for last resot,, Both my girls got much better on BC and did quite well, and as long as the communication lines are open you prolly wont need to worry about sexual activity for quite some time,, especially if she know with sex comes pap, and a whole lotta other stuff, LOL. Good Luck and I hope they help her soon :)

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Apr. 20, 2011 at 9:38 AM

I thought it was only necessary after sexual activity as well. Maybe I just need to find her another Dr. and go with that.  I dont want to put her through all that .. oh well that is definately a thought!! The thought of having to have a pap will scare her out of sex!! That is what  I will do lol.. Thanks bunches!!!

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