Question: Forgiveness


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How do you feel about forgiving someone who really hurt your feelings?? would you forgive and forget or would you just ignore the situation and move on???

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 11:50 PM

I have been dealing with something for a year now . Its a tough question to answer and I think the more personal it is .. the harder it is to forgive. In my situation.. someone really hurt my daughter ( with words and ugliness) and she is just a child. They took this problem to my whole church and not to me. This hurt me so bad and I said I will NEVER forgive you for what you have done to my family. At this point.. sometimes I can pray for them and sometimes I cant. I feel at times that i have forgiven them at other time I feel that I havent . I also know that if I dont then God is not going to forgive me for my many sins and mistakes either ... Its just a tough one.. we can one day forgive but its alot harder to forget. I hope that all my rambling made sense!!

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Apr. 18, 2011 at 11:54 PM

I think if you don't forgive and something happens to the person who hurt you then you would probly even feel worse that's just my opionion we never know what may happen tommorow.


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Apr. 19, 2011 at 1:10 AM

I first believe it is a process....It takes time to process whar someone has done to you, especially if it involves your child, or you yourself...

I know for myself it has always helped to put physical distance between me and the person who offended me...I also have to go through a grieving process...until I can say..."This doesn't hurt anymore..."

I do believe in certain situations it is acceptable to let the offender how you feel...to make them accountable that they have committed an offense against your spirit...However, this should not be done  aggressively, but assertively...

I believe that at that point the process of forgiveness can begin...It is a wonderful feeling of freedom when one finally lets go of the anger...And yes, it should be done as soon as possible, one never knows what lies from day to day...


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Apr. 19, 2011 at 7:48 AM

I have been dealing with this with someone for several years now..  I keep forgiving and trying to move on... However this person will not leave me alone , no matter how many times I tell her I do not want anything to do with her ever again....Its like shes obessed with me and can not live her own life.. She wants mine.... I feel so sorry for her....

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Apr. 19, 2011 at 8:38 AM

It does take time. I have tried to forgive people and, years later, found there was still pain and resentment I didn't know about. I'm not sure if it's ever possible to forgive 100%, but you can get close, and I think it's good for us to try. And very freeing. 

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Apr. 19, 2011 at 12:39 PM

I"ve been dealing with trying to forgive my brother for almost a year. It's a long story, with issues that have been going on my entire life, but last summer was the straw that broke the camel's back. I keep praying for God to give me the grace to forgive, and to heal this situation. It is very hard, to the point that it has affected me physically.

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Apr. 19, 2011 at 5:13 PM

My mom once told me that unforgiveness is like carrying rocks in your pocket.  The only one that bears the weight is you.  You carry them, you take them out of your pocket to remind yourself of what was done, you put them back in your pocket and the weight is still there! By forgiving someone you are not saying what they did was right... what you are saying is that it is not valuable enough to carry in my pocket everyday... the scars remain to remind you not to let it happen again but don't carry the pain...  It took me over 10 years to really understand what those rocks really weighed!


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Apr. 20, 2011 at 1:39 AM

Just depends on the hurt.

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Apr. 20, 2011 at 8:00 AM

kamore, thank you!!!! I've never heard it put that way before!! I needed to hear that!

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