The Bible tells us to love others AS WE LOVE OURSELVES! If you don't love yourself, you cannot truly love others.

Self love may be the greatest & most important love that you experience in this lifetime. However so many people, learning to yourself does not seem easy to achieve. For most of us, genuine self-love seems so elusive, so much harder to grasp than we expect..

So... try to think of something that you like about yourself, or something that you did today that made you or someone else feel good-- no matter what or how small it may seem. Give yourself the kind of warm praise that you would a friand.

Recognize that the love has to come from you:

If you're a survivor of child abuse or come from an abusive situation, you may still be waiting for a parent or partner to give you the love and acceptance you never got as a child.The kind of love you need (or needed as a child) probably isn't going to come from a parent who abused you or looked the other way while you were being abused. BUT IT CAN COME FROM YOU.

It mat be hard to give it to yourself at first-- after all, if you didn't recieve love as a child, or if some of that love was torn away from you by violence, self-hate may have built up inside you. But you have the courage and strength to love yourself, if you've survived this long. And you deserve it!

Love yourself like a friend:

Close your eyes and think of a person you deeply love and trust, and who who you know loves you. Think about all of the things you love and appreciate about them. Notice how that feels inside you, how it makes you feel good.

Now turn it around the other way-- be your friend, feeling that same deep love for you.Trust in their love for you, and just feel it. See your yourself through gentle eyes, with compasion and love the way your friends does, even if you can only do it for a moment. Now let yourself recieve that love, the love you haave as a friend to yourself. Feel the warmth move through you. Remember how it feels, and come back to that love another time.

Make a note every time someone says something nice about you. Every time someone tells you something about yourself that makes you feel good, write it down or make a mental note and jot it down later. When you get home, put that note in a container of '' good things about me.'' Decorate the container however you like. Keep on adding notes, and read them over every time you need a little boost -- and even when you don't feel like you do.

DON'T JUST LET THE JAR OF NOTES JUST SIT THERE, REALLY READ THEM AND WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS WELL AS WAHT THEY THINK AND MAKE A JAR OF GOOD THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF  AND SEE HOW THAT WORKS OUT FOR YOU!

 

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