I know my son is difficult.  I know he says things that are inappropriate.  I know he has impulse control issues.   I know he lacks self control.  I live with it every day.  Don't assume that he has no boundaries or that I have no rules.  Don't assume that I am too busy to parent him.  Don't assume that he has no consequences for  his actions.  Those assumptions will be dead wrong.

If my son hurts your child, knock on my door.  Help me teach him a lesson.  Don't look at me with hate in your eyes or worse, look at my son with hate in your eyes.  Knock on my door, have a conversation with me, have coffee with me. You have no idea how much I would appreciate it.

I know he is difficult but you see, when I look at him, I see the little baby I gave birth to.  The little baby I held, fed, burped and rocked to sleep.  The little baby I stayed awake with all night because I was afraid he would stop breathing....I see my  heart.

So, just know that I am sorry that he is such a handful but, get to know him for the wonderful little boy that he is.  I'm doing the best I can for him and it sometimes just doesn't seem like enough.  I am doing the best I can.  It's all I have.

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Annab...
Apr. 22, 2011 at 9:22 PM

I totally understand everything about how you feel- my son is exactly the same way. He's in counseling and it honestly doesn't seem to help very much. We work on it every day with him. It's a constant process and a constant struggle, hopefully with love and guidance things will get better with time.

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Lb128f
Apr. 23, 2011 at 12:50 AM

Sweet....it sounds like you are doing a GOOD JOB!

I'm sorry about how others act. ;(

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bounc...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 1:20 AM

couldnt have said it better myself! :)

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Rebec...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 3:48 AM

OMG, Finally another person who can relate. My DD is 5 (6 at the end of August) She has no impulse control. It makes things so difficult. She never could soothe herself as a baby. She used to have sensory issues. She was considered Developmentally Delayed at 2 yrs. People are so mean and rude about staring at us when she is having a meltdown. We lay down the law here. We take things away from her, we don't just give in to her. I know many people assume this. People cannot judge, what they have no knowledge or understanding of. It's tough, love her more then anything in this world. She is in Special Ed because of her problems. They want to mainstream her because academically she is on cue. Emotionally, socially she is not doing so well. She does not know boundaries and often times kids try to get away from her when she just wants friends. Was your child a preemie?  She was born at 35 weeks. ( luckily not a micro preemie) But her lungs were underdeveloped and she could not breathe on her own for a while. If you ever want to chat I am here for you.

 

 Rebecca

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mrimom
Apr. 24, 2011 at 9:29 PM

Thank you so much ladies.  I just feel so overwhelmed sometimes and I feel like I constantly have to defend my  parenting and I'm done with it.

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