Okay so yesterday I had one of those "do I even know you?" moments with my husband. We were talking about how Nicholas Cage was arrested for domestic abuse and the article I had read about it. The article said that he (NC) and his wife were arguing about a property and whether they were at the right place and the cabbie called the police because Nicholas grabbed his wife's arm. When the police arrived they told the Cage's to go homesince they were both drunk and loud. Nicolas dared the cops to arrest him so they did. I was saying that it was a stupid thing to do because now he has a DV on his record and people will look at it the same as if he had hit his wife. My DH says that he thinks the cabbie should have minded his own business and that if Nicholas had wanted to beat "the hell" out of his wife in the middle of the street it was nobody's business but his. I was shocked. We have been married for over fourteen years and this was really disturbing to me. It made me think back to earlier in our marriage when he got angry with me and elbowed me hard because I made him angry and then threw his drink at me. I responded with a bat and threw him out for awhile. Nothing like that has happened in over twelve years but it made me wonder if he would beat me if he thought he could get away with it. I just don't look at him the same. I could go on, I mean it hasn't been all roses by any means but really you think you know someone huh?

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mouse...
Apr. 23, 2011 at 11:12 PM

scary, real scary, you have kids with this prince?

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faith...
Apr. 23, 2011 at 11:32 PM

So funny...I read this and this is the reason I just joined cafemom.com...to post!

Girl, I feel like my husband might hv said the same thing!

I dont think he meant it to say I agree with it...more like...a free will kind of thing, a man thing...or some would say...a sexist thing. If it were reversed, for example, a girl arguing with her bf/hubby, his mindset would probably be..."smH, they need to take that ish inside!" lol...Just my thought!

Forgive the hubby--he's a guy after all!

we rock

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MokaM...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 4:01 AM Your probably right, he can be a little sexist sometimes. He truly hasn't lifted a finger towards me but it made me wonder if he wishes I was barefoot and pregnant lol

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Lb128f
Apr. 24, 2011 at 4:33 AM

I agree with you...I don't know what your DH is thinking. :(

This (below) is good! :-) Good for YOU!

I responded with a bat and threw him out for awhile.

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Moms_...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 7:33 AM

Keep on top of everything & keep that bat handy. You never know what can make someone snap. Men tend to talk before they think but yeah you kind of wonder if that's what they are really thinking hmmm Stay safe and do we really know anyone?

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Lucky...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 6:45 PM

to me the cabbie should have minded his own, UNLESS it did get out of hand and She hit him or he hit her. 

If someone did what your husband did to you he would find out what its like to have a bullet threw his chest.  (yes i have shot my ex)

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maidn
Apr. 24, 2011 at 8:47 PM

Was married for 15 years to an abusive man and you do see the signs I absolutely believe though there are some men wit the mentality who only get out of line if we let them , so set the ground rules clearly with clear deal breakers and never go back on them

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mom2f...
Apr. 24, 2011 at 9:50 PM

I think you never truly know someone no matter how long you are with then and do they know everything about us no probably not If I knew everything about my guy after 25 years I would be bored with him.simple smile

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Teddi152
Apr. 25, 2011 at 12:19 AM

Well... I don't think grabbing an arm is a big deal. I thinking raring back and hitting is a big deal. Been there done that. I think the cab driver should have minded is own, but the comment your husband made about it is a little shocking and could def be a red flag. 

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