I don't like and don't understand how a relationship is so compassionate and both people are so happy and content on doing nothing just as long as they have each other and then later in the relationship you grow to not want each other because life starts happening and the father misses out on everything that happens when they are growing up..or is that just when you have kids or are depressed..My Relationship is not going well and i hate feeling like a single parent, and i am not but i don't feel the compassion or love or attraction or attractive to him. I got a super soft body pillow for me to hold and sleep with so i didn't feel as alone any more.. it helps a little but its not the same. We have been together for four years and i feel like i don't know him at all and all we do together is watch movies. He works, sleeps, eats, plays video games, in that order and nothing else besides play with the kids. I don't know what to do or if i can even do any thing or if i even should but i have a major problem with not trying to work things out or stay around to fix things i always give up and leave before i could fix anything. I always say things the wrong way making him think i met the opposite of what i said or was trying to say. i want to make it work for the kidsi just dont see how or feel that it really is possible to do.. I feel retared for not knowing what to do or how to do it.

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Apr. 26, 2011 at 6:15 AM

Have you tried marriage counseling?  One of the biggest problems in relationships is communication, and it sounds like this is your problem as well.  It seems like your DH might be totally oblivious to how you feel.  Men always seem to think that no news is good news.  Get a therapist to help you learn to communicate with each other.  Sounds like your DH doesn't understand your needs.  If you can't afford a therapist, you could try a minister.

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