So me and my babys dad (adrian) recently took a break. I wanted to know if i was with him because i had to be or because i wanted to. this was about 2 months ago. i realized like 3 weeks ago that i loved him, i wanted to be with him because he was such a great guy and dad.

2 weeks ago he started acting likea jerk and not comming around, but that was because he had a hicky on his neck from some girl he had just met and the same night i guess they just made out and he got a hicky. i was furious and i am hur, but its not like we are together and i was slowly getting over it.

last night he accidently calls me at four in the morning while he is supposed to be sick at home sleeping, i HEARD HIM MAKING OUT WITH THIS GIRL, THE ONE WHO GAVE HIM THE HICKYS. the thing about it is, everyone who knows him, even his friends are so so shocked. it is just not his character.He is totally not the kind of guy at all that you would think to hook up with this random girl and hook up with her.

you see i know he is young and so am I. i know that he is single. but i see him pretty much every day. i work with him. and i am just in shock. i am hurt, heartbroken, and in awe. he has always been the kind of guy that is family oriented and i have been the party animal type and wanted to go out, and he doesnt know that while we have been single i have hooked up with guys, but he does not know about it and it never meant anything. but he does it and flaunts it in my face with hickys and late night calls.

i am so stressed out with school, i have the baby everyday and night, and i am all alone now just feeling sorry for myself and shocked at his behavior. what do i do? i know he feels like shit because he keeps getting caught. but ijust dont know if i could do this and be all alone! how do i move on???

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kwampler
May. 7, 2007 at 2:59 PM

You can do it.  I am a single mom to 3 beautiful children.  No family, no help, no child support nothing.  My children's father left, and then mailed a letter saying he never wanted to see them again.  I haven't seen him since.  That has been 7 years.

It can be done.  You deserve better. First of all, don't ever let someone treat you that way.  You teach people how to treat you and if you send him the message this his behavior is acceptable, then you teach him that it is ok to mistreat you. 

Believe me, there are worse things than being alone with a child. Brush yourself off, gather your self esteem, and move on.  You don't need to have a rship with him in order for him to be a father. (Also, you don't want to teach your child that it is either ok to treat someone that way or to be treated that way.) Your child is your top priority not him.

Believe in yourself, make a plan and a goal for your future and get moving. One day you will look back and be thankful you took care of yourself and your child instead of focusing on a bad rship.

Good luck. You can do it!!!!! 

 

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cayma...
May. 8, 2007 at 12:03 AM BTW...i really haven't "really" gotten over him...i kno how depressing! Cry

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kwampler
May. 8, 2007 at 11:34 AM

Time heals everything...but not as much as action.  Get moving. Find something else to focus on.  Start writing, painting, anything. Get a hobby.  Focus on your child and yourself instead of him and the lost relationship.

"Some of God's greatest gifts, are unanswered prayers"!!!!

Katrina

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mikam...
Jun. 16, 2007 at 2:29 AM I'm just recently single and I'm still trying to figure out how to get over the father of my daughter!!!!!!!!!!!! If you've figured out a good way, let me know.

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