from the people in my life, no matter the nature of the relationship.  Those two things are honesty, and respect my boundaries.  I am a very private person most of the time, and when I'm ready to shut down, that's exactly what I do.  I will defend my boundaries by any means.  If I told you once I don't want to talk, don't ask me what's wrong because I just told you I don't want to talk.  I am so damn tired of people demanding more of me than they are entitled to.  I am busy.  I am a full time student looking for a job and raising three kids alone.  I do not have time for every person, every day, for every damn thing they may need.  Don't get so huffy and offended when I reject your oh so exclusive company.  I like my private time, it is precious to me, and Heaven help you if you try to intrude on that.  I am not yours, or anyone else's for the taking.  Yeah, I am stingy with myself, but that's my call to make.  If you don't like it feel free to leave.

If I extend an invite and you reject me, it doesn't ruin my day.  I'm not emo like that.  Life moves on.  If there is something you want to discuss, you have to come to me with it because I'm not going to be pushy about it, and I'm also not a mind reader nor do I want to be.  I appreciate all invites I get although I do have to reject most of them due to my other responsibilities in life.  What i don't appreciate is acting like I owe you something.

I am too cold a person to understand the concept of being lonely.  I can be sympathetic to those that are but that doesn't mean I want to cure your problem completely.  I can guarantee I never made such a promise to any of you, so don't expect me to fulfil something I never said I would do.  Be happy with your own company.

I really don't think that these two things are too much to ask for, but if it's too much for you, you need to let me know now.

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