Hello Everyone.

My son is 6 years old.  He is in 1st grade.  Lately, he has been getting into trouble at school.  He hangs out with these 2 boys that he has told us previously are always in trouble.  

He is very kind, smart, funny, friendly, etc.  I am not saying he is an angel, but for the most part he is a good boy.  So, he has had a few notes from the teacher lately that he doesn't listen, interrupts and during recess acts up as in throwing rocks and playing rough, spitting on each other.  At home he does interrupt a lot and grunts when he gets mad when he doesn't like what you tell him.  He is an only child.  We are still hoping to have another child, but it hasn't happened yet.    

He was told that if this behavior didn't stop he would not go on a field trip.  He was better for about a week and went on his field trip.  Fast forward to this week.  His teacher called today and said he had a "discipline slip" issued and he is not going on the next field trip on May 10th. 

We talked to him about his behavior and explained the situation and we took away his TV privileges and his WII game (which he only plays on Sundays for 1-2 hours) for a week.  Obviously, the talking to him about his behavior and taking those away didn't help.  We use time out and the counting to three, which I thought was working, but I guess not anymore.  My Husband has spanked him, but not very often.  He is more of the disciplinarian.

Sorry for the long rant, but I just don't know what else to do.  My Friend told me that we better nip this in the bud now, before he gets older and into more trouble.

Any advice would be helpful.  Thank you Ladies ;)


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Apr. 28, 2011 at 12:41 PM

  You need to be consistent and stick with one form of punishment.  I use time out, and this has worked.  I would suggest also if the 2 other boys he hangs with are sitting near him at school, that they be moved away from your son.  You can talk to the teacher if that is the case.  I would make a behavior chart for your son.  If he listens and does well then he gets a sticker for each day.  After so many days of good behavior then plan something special for the two of you to do...a reward system for behaving well (like go to a movie, or to the playground).  Always praise good behavior.  Hopefully with time he will want to seek the good attention and not the bad.  I hope this helps.

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Apr. 28, 2011 at 12:51 PM

Hi there!

Thanks SO much for the advice!  I really appreciate it.  I think your idea is GREAT and I am going to try it!  I was just looking through some paperwork and found a bunch of stickers, so now I know what to use them for.  I will also talk to his Teacher about moving him or the other boys in his classroom.  I sure hope this helps.  Thanks again :)

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