My Mother's Day vent

[TheGreatCthulhu]

I am getting pretty tired of seeing ad after ad and email after email about gifts for Mother's Day.  I won't be getting anything, just like last year.  Heck, last year nobody even said, "Happy Mother's Day".  My kids are little and I know they are too young to understand the whole Mother's Day concept, but it'd be nice if my husband could help them out in that area.  Try to get them to draw a picture or make a card or something, but he won't.  I asked the kids if they would draw me something and they told me no. 

I know getting butthurt over some silly holiday is stupid, it's just hard not to when every other mother I know at least gets some sort of recognition.  I just love all the bragging my husband's friend's wife is doing about how she gets manicures and pedicures, professional massages, and a day at the spa, even when it's not Mother's Day.  I've never even set foot in a spa, I've never had my nails done, and I've never had a professional massage in my entire life. 

I've been caring for my sick husband since November all on my own, you'd think the least he could do is get me a card, even a free e-card, but he won't.  I have given up my entire existence to taking care of him and our children since he got sick six months ago, I don't even leave the house, unless it's late at night when the kids are in bed so I can run to the 24 hour grocery store to get necessities.  I never get breaks, I can't even sleep in my own bed, I've been on the couch since November and not one of those pull out bed kinds either.  I get maybe 45 minutes to an hour of sleep a night, I'm not allowed to sleep in or take naps because the kids get up early and I'm the only one who can watch them.  I'm trying to put myself through college, so eventually I can have a decent paying job; even that is difficult with zero help and three kids all under the age of 5.  I'm not allowed to complain or simply say that I'm stressed or would like very much to have even 30 minutes to myself.  I don't even feel human anymore and I seem to be the only person who cares how any of this is affecting me. 

[hollydaze1974]

May. 4, 2011 at 4:27 PM

OH, Honey... you gotta make it a HUGE DEAL for it to become a huge deal. You don't take "no" I won't draw you a picture, you say "It's the rules, you have to do something nice for me and I want a picture" Seriously. It's only your day if you declare it YOUR DAY. I'm sorry you have so much on you but that is even more of a reason to bring those children up right and teach them to appreciate you... not just on Mother's Day, but every day and ESPECIALLY on Mother's Day. It's not an option to celebrate me on Mother's Day. It's a requirement... and I'd better hear it from the moment I see the boys till I kiss them good nite. Girl, MAKE it a big deal, I'm not joking. Find a place to go and take them with you saying It's MY day and we're going (fill in the blank) on my day... or if you'd rather (and it sounds like you would) get a sitter for four hours and take a break my dear. You have to demand thanks for all you do.... and believe me... you'll get it... even it it's just to shut you up. Speak up woman get your appreciation! Celebrate yourself!

[Philyra]

May. 4, 2011 at 4:53 PM

Well, I for one want to wish you a happy Mother's Day.  I'm sorry things are so rough right now, but I applaud your courage and fortitude.  I will be thinking of you and praying for you in days to come that your load will lighten and that you'll feel appreciated.  In the meantime, appreciate yourself.  You are doing amazing things!  Some day you will look back with pride.  And I'm sure too, that someday your children will look back at this time and be in awe of you!  Hang in there, Hon!

[katiebug840204]

May. 4, 2011 at 4:57 PM

I know how u feel.  I never get anything for any holiday.  SO from me to you...HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!!