Melissa...'s Journal

Grief of Losing My Husband

For six years I kept you as a friend. For six years I denied myself happiness because I was afraid of what other people would think if I decided to be with you. I was living my life based on what my friends and family thought and didn't put too much value into what I thought and felt.

After you died, I realized I missed out on six whole years. I could have had so much more time with you, but I let it slip through my fingers. I vowed to never live my life based on what other people thought but to only live life based on what I wanted. Being with you taught me this, and I will always be thankful to you for that. Moving forward in life and being hopeful for your future  never makes you forget your past.

Never again will I deny myself happiness because I'm afraid of what other people think of my decisions. I will only follow my heart and do what I know is right. I will do what I know is best for me and my children, not what others think is best for me.

I've realized that when a really good thing comes your way, you shouldn't pass it up. Grab hold of it. Love it. Enjoy every moment because you never know how many moments you have left.

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Jun. 22, 2011 at 3:32 PM

You put that so well.  I think that is a lesson we all need to learn.

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Jul. 12, 2011 at 4:17 PM

YES! These are words to live by. Thank you Melissa.

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