Ok my life has been flipped upside down for the last couple of months . My boyfriend of 6 years decided that he didnt want to be with me. We have 2 kids . My childrens father has been pretty much able to do everything that he wanted i love him with all my heart and I always will. He tells me one minute that he doesnt want to be with us and then the next minute he says that he doesnt know what he wants . He says that if I  take the kids with me and stay somewhere else that it would be just worst . But everytime I turn around hes on the phone with another female he doesnt hardly talk to me and when we talk he says something to breakl my heart all over again . I just want my family all together . Like we are meant to be . Should i stay or should i go ? 

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Jun. 20, 2011 at 3:43 PM

I would make him choose.  Right now, he is having his cake and eating it, too, and that ought not to be.  One of the big problems in situations like yours is that your boundaries have been made too flexible in order to accomodate his.  So now he is counting on your extending those boundaries even farther.  I would instead pull them in and make him decide if he wants to live with them.  If it were me, I would probably pack up the children and move, telling him that if he wants to choose us as his family, I will be waiting for a marriage proposal and a date for the wedding.  That's how you will know if he wants to be a family the way you want to be a family.  I wouldn't waste any more time with him if that's not what he wants. 

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Jun. 20, 2011 at 4:40 PM

RUN!!!! RUN FAST!!!!!

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Jun. 24, 2011 at 8:51 AM

ur smart beauitfull and u can do better . u dont need to be playing this type of game, u have children to raise u dont need another one to look after ( meaning him ).  u should walk away and if he loves u he will follow u if not theres better out there Ok.

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