I have been so sad for the last 6 months. I really need to seek some medical help with this depression. I don't feel like myself anymore. I've usually a very organized person, to a fault and I'm so disorganized I can't find anything and have lost bills and important papers!

It all came to a head yesterday. We just had my DD's graduation party this last weekend. She is a great young lady but tends to be lazy when it comes to working. She never applied for any scholarships or financial aide. She finally had a meeting with someone from the university and FORGOT to ask about money!! I was so furious with her. Then on top of that she didn't come home when she was told to. I was livid!! I told her that if she wasn't enrolled in some kind of school by September then she had to have a job and pay $200 a month or she could find somewhere else to live.

THEN, my SO is a wonderful caring man with one major flaw. He can't find a job. There are a few circumstances that hinder this but it's been years!! I stumbled upon a temporary job that could make us $800, which we need. He had all kinds of excuses why he couldn't do it. I WAS LIVID!! This man hasn't had a real job in many years and he can't do a paper route for 6 weeks!!!!!!! SO, he got an ultimatum too. He has to regularly bring at least $400 in to the house by September or he has to go too.

I just gave 2 of the most important people in my life ultimatums and may have to kick them out in less than 3 months. I'M SO SAD!!!

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Jun. 23, 2011 at 9:34 PM

Wow...you have A LOT going on! You are right about the depression...it does need to be treated and doing so CAN help...please talk with your Doc. I'm sorry about your DD and your SO...but, I think you are right again in telling them what you did. Your DD can talk with the Financial Advisor at her school and apply for FA...depending on your income she could get full FA for school...it would cover books and schooling. I hope they both will think about what you've said and realize that they should be more helpful and caring (I'm sure that would help some with your depression too)! Good Luck!!

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Jun. 23, 2011 at 10:08 PM

I've been in this kind of position many times.  Be easy on yourself.  You don't necassarily have full blown depression, but situational. Its so important to find support for yourself in a counselor, pastor or friend.  I don't think your ultimatums were unwarranted.  I think sometimes we teach people how to treat us, and if we let them know we can be taken for granted, sometimes they do it.  Praying you find some peace.

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Jun. 24, 2011 at 12:41 AM Hugs

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Jul. 15, 2011 at 9:44 PM

Wow, you are going through a lot. Your headed in the right direction though by taking control of some of your stressors instead of letting them get the best of you. A lot of us have had bouts with depression, keep an eye on it and see if it's something you can manage with support and some life changes, or if there is something more lurking in your life. Sending you lots of hugs and happy thoughts. Better days your way!

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