Vent about bedrest....

[Marissa823]

 So today I have made it to the 30 week mark in my pregnancy. I have been on bedrest for the last 2+ weeks due to a cervix that has already shortened to 1.3 centimeters & therefore puts me at a much greater risk of going into preterm labor. I have already spent one night in the hospital to be monitored & checked to make sure I wasn't experiencing an signs of preterm labor & everything looked good so they sent me home.

I am having a very hard time dealing w/ all of this. I already felt overwhelmed & apprehensive about adding twin girls to our family but now I feel completely unprepared and helpless on top of it. No one visits me, my sister in law is throwing me a shower but everytime I turn around there are more no's & very few yes's. My husband who was very helpful and optimistic & supportive after I was put on bed rest is now depressed, moody & overwhelmed. As a result of all of this our almost 6 year old son has been acting out.

In my heart I know I need to try to let all of this roll off my back, stay in bed & think happy thoughts until the girl's are born but when everyone around you is in a bad mood it is very hard to do.

[Momforhealth]

Aug. 1, 2011 at 1:03 PM

Ohhhh...I am so sorry.  I was very apprehensive as well.  I had 2 kids, a step daughter, and then prego with twins.  People were rude to me and I was very scared.  But I also remembered how beautiful and wonderful my children are and that made me excited.  A big family is wonderful, and fun, there is more love to go around, and they give really great group hugs. God takes care of all the rest. Have faith. 

Bedrest is hard and so is the last trimester of a twin pregnancy.  I went into full blown labor at 32 weeks.   I was in labor for 8.5 hours and we managed to stop it.  I stayed dialated to a 5 for 5 more weeks. About 2 times per week I went into labor again and we would FLY to the hospital.  A couple of times with the police speeding with us to get me there.  Each time they would stop it with Ambien and a pain shot and I would go back home to bed.  I was so big and in so much pain....it was by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do.  Finally at 37 weeks I naturally delivered twins boys just a few ounces under 7lbs each...and my boys came home with me.  We made it through.

Now I am not really trying to scare you..but really make a point that you must block all that junk out.  It is not worth your stress right now because every part of your strength needs to be focused on you and those babies.   Please trust me.  Ok..so I care about you...I have known you for a great deal of time now on Cafemom.   You have to kind of put it on the back burner right now because honestly you can not be available....at least for this last trimester.  Sit down with your family (your husband and your son) Let them know how special they are to you..but you seriously need them to be there for you now during this last tri because otherwise it could get even rougher than it is now.  They need to help YOU.   They are the ones that need to put it all aside right now and help you.  Get your son to help you and then rave about how much of a great help he has been to you...you are so proud of him. He is asking for attention..so give him good. Maybe he can come play cards with you or something.  You must be focused on taking care of your body right now.  Drink water all day long.  I give you permission to not be available for depression and bad behaivor.   Do not call those other people. Only you and good thoughts ok.

[Momforhealth]

Aug. 1, 2011 at 1:06 PM

p.s.  When we found out I was having twins...I swear my husband just had a scared blank stare for that 8 months..LOL..he didn't talk, he barely smiled..we laugh about it now.