The Nerve of Some People Especially Family Of All Things.

[LindaSapphire]

I can not believe the nerve of my brothers - in - law and their wives.  We met with the funeral home today to plan their father's funeral. Neither brother wanted to be there. One sister-in-law left. After details discussed. and we said good-bye.  My dh left to go back to work and I stayed to unwind with my friend (who also is the funeral director) when my other sister in law came in  to ask if she could come out to the parking lot.  So two of went out there with her. Where my brothers-in-law....one who hasn't had any correspondence or even his visited his father in over 4 years and the other brother who lives in town and doesn't want to be bothered visiting his father except maybe once every other month had the audacity to ask my friend if she knew how much his life insurance was.  SAY WHAT> I looked at them and they turned to me and said that they wanted to know how much money they would get after they buried the old man. I couldn't believe it - I called my dh and told him he better get his ass back to the funeral home ASAP! 

My dh and I have been caring for his father the past 7 years ever since his wife died. He lived with us. We were health care proxies. He had COPD (Emphysema) it had gotten worse in the past year.  He has been missing his wife.  .

 

This is a rose bush in front of our home that my mil planted when they moved in 22 years ago. It usually bloomed only in June then 7 years ago when she passed it bloomed in June and August (his & her birthdays and anniv. of her death). This picture was taken last Thursday - yes you read right. It bloomed after that freak Nor'easter we got 10/29. When my fil saw it he cried. He told me he wants to go home! I told him he was - he shook his head. Then I realized he was ready to die. This past Monday he was not feeling well and wanted to go to the hospital - I called an ambulance and took him in. They couldn't find anything wrong with his heart and decided to keep him for a couple days for observation. He passed away yesterday morning in his sleep.  I believe this is what he wanted he did not want my husband or son to find him - both of them check on him in the morning before dh leaves for work or Michael for school. He didn't want to put his son or five year old grandson through that.

My brothers - in-law were talking about filing a suit against the hospital for letting their father die! Come on - man's COPD was getting worse he wanted to go! They haven't been around.  My husband is beside himself and I bite my tongue cause I don't want to want to say what asses both of them are! 

Thank goodness for my friends here, in town and across the country and even my sister overseas who are supporting my dh and I through this trying time. The wake is on Sunday and Monday is the funeral - once is said and done. I know one brother will once again drop out of our lives well not till he knows how much money he and his wife are getting.

 

 

[Ladyisis]

Nov. 10, 2011 at 7:13 PM

I am so sorry you and your family are going through the loss of your FIL, but glad he is at peace. I can't believe some people would ask about life insurance policies at a time like this. I am sorry you have inconciderate brother-in-laws and their wifes who don't even care if he died or not, but what kind of money they will or will not get. I am very sorry for you, your husband, and son. Many thoughts and prayers for you all. If you FIL had a will or a life insurance policy I know only those people listed on them will get the money or anything else for that matter. Good luck and take care. Hugs hun!

[saltycoqui]

Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:32 PM

Yeah, what insensitive fools. Your family doesn't need to be around people like that. I wouldn't even speak to them at the funeral. In fact, they shouldn't even bother to go at all and pretend to be sad.

All my love and blessings to you.