I owe my life to Maggie and Bo.....My Story Part 1

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I'm Ashlynn and I'm 20 years old. I created my CafeMom account just over four years ago. I created it because I had just found out that I was having a baby. I was sixteen, scared and wanted to know my options. I made a very short post about giving up my child for adoption and I got a good amount of kind words and help. After reading up on all the details of adoption, I made a choice not to give my baby up, but then a week later I got kicked out of my house and my boyfriend and his family abandoned me. I was sixteen and alone, so I went to stay with one of my good friends, Sarah.

After staying with her for a few days I begin realize that I had to give this baby a better life and that most likely would be with another family. After telling my friend Sarah of my plans she told me that her older sister Jen had a baby when she was 17 and gave him up for adoption. I was shocked because Sarah and I were good friends and I never knew about Jen's adoption. I then told Jen about the baby and that I wanted to give her a good life. She told me to call this counselor that helped with her son's adoption. I talked with her and about a month into our conversations I was looking through possible parents books. After meeting a few parents, I realized that I did not connect with any of them.

Then Jen told me that her son's adoptive parents were considering adoption again. They were very nice people and were very kind. I spent time with them and really connected with them. I think it was when I was eight months along in my pregnancy that I thought Maggie and Bo would be  great parents for my little girl. But I was still very unsure whether I really wanted to go forth with the adoption, because although I was connecting with Maggie and Bo, I was also connecting with the baby that had been growing in me for months. I was very verbal with them about my doubts. They made me a deal. I think that once they realized this they told me that could not adopted my child. They could see how much I cared about her and how much I wanted her. In the same conversation they told me that if I wanted to I could live with in there garage/apartment. The deal was that I would have to get a job and go back to school after the baby was born and I once I got a job, I had to start paying them rent. Once they told me this I think I just cried. No one in my life had really cared for me like this before, I jumped at the offer. Maggie and Bo knew that my family did not want me because I was a screw up and they wanted to help me. 

At 7:16 am on June 18, 2008 I gave birth to a beautiful 7 pound 5 oz little girl. I gave her the name Tatum Margaret. I gave her the first name Tatum because that was my grandmother's name and gave her the middle name Margaret to that my daughter and I would always remember the people that had helped us become a little family. Tatum who we call Tate is a amazing little girl. She brings a smile and joy to everyone she meets.  I love her with all of my heart.

About a month after Tate was born I began working and taking night classes at my old high school. I was doing so well in my classes that my teacher said I should take the GED test after being in class for six months. I took them and passed. Once I passed them I started taking classes at my local community college. While I was taking classes I met someone. His name was Eban and he was wonderful. We started dating and I learned that he had a daughter who was two years old named Sasha. After a year of dating I moved out of Maggie and Bo place and moved into to a little apartment with Eban, Sasha and Tate. 

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-Ashlynn 

Proud Mother of Sasha Rai, Tatum Margaret and Eli Robert. Proud Fiance of Eban