A LITTLE HONESTY

[chatty]

Let me ask your opinion on this one. My b/friend has a female friend that lives in N.M. and she is forever calling him and texting him I told him that i didn't like her and we all went to the same school together. And i have a male friend that contacts me sometimes. We are suppose to tell one another when either one of them calls us. I tell him but  he never tells me when she calls him. He tells me the only reason for that is cause I get mad. Well 2 1/2 yrs ago we were just seeing one another when he would come home off the road. He told me that he could not be with me cause he had other plans with his brother. well come to find out he was with her at Wal-mart. Now should I think that they are still seeing one another or what,cause why else wouldn't he tell me when she calls. On the 8th of may she texted him and he was home with me and he didn't tell me. I found out cause i looked at his phone when he was sleeping. I know that i was wrong for looking in his phone. But you  know the text said that we need to talk that it is very important. What in the hell could be so important htat she needs to speak to him about. I can't confront him but I do have the chicks phone number and I want to tell her off but i know if I do that she will instantly be calling him up. I don't know what he would think about that. Cause I know that she will tell him my number wioll pop up and she won't answer the phone on a *67. Oh well said enough for now.

[Patience1]

May. 10, 2007 at 5:32 PM dont worry all that matter is he loves you and you love him

[vangel34]

May. 10, 2007 at 5:35 PM You better start asking questions and quick.  If he won't answer them then call her until she will answer.  Also, try looking at his cell phone bill, how often are they talking on the phone?  Some cell phone companies allow you to view the bill online.  If he's sleeping with her, you have a right to know, considering you're sleeping with him too.

[TreborsmoM]

May. 10, 2007 at 5:36 PM ID flat out call her and give her the what 4... HOMEWRECKERS!

[devonsmom]

May. 11, 2007 at 8:11 AM although you have to love the first replies optimism and love is a grand thing...it isn't all its cracked up to be without trust.  this is just my experience and my opinion, having been in several similar situations.......always trust your instinct, you have it for a reason!  maybe suggest for the good of the relationship suggest calmly that you'll give up your friend if he gives up his.... if it continues it may be time for him to choose one......if he is sleeping with her...ummm, hello, so are you as the other reply was saying....in this day of diseases.....i would wanna know who i am sharing things with..but if you don't deal with it, men are like puppies and kids and if they get away with they think its ok and keep doing it......laurie 

[Kittyblanton]

May. 11, 2007 at 9:30 AM Hey Chatty. Don't call her. She does not owe you anything but he does. Trust your gut and talk to him. There is absolutely no reason for them to be talking so much. Also the lie about being with his brother and then being with her. I don't want to hurt your feelings but if they lie once they will more than likely lie again. Been there done that. And nobody could tell me anything either because I did not want to face it. So I am telling you ,you will be much better off alone and you will be fine if he leaves. You have to tak to him! He is the one who owes you an explanation not her. Yes she is a witch but there is nothing you can do about that. If he gets mad about you looking at his cell phone tell him you know it was wrong but it's also wrong that you feel like you have to. That is my two cents worth.