It has been 21 days since i left my abuser. i finally am living again. i never realized how bad i had it when i was with him; always being afraid to look in a certain direction, or even touch my face or hair while we were in public(according to him,  i was sending signals to the supposed men i was cheating on him with). i would never smile in public because i was afraid he would tell me i was smiling at another man. but now i can hold my head up high, and look in any direction i please; hell, i could even go crazy and wave to every person i see! i am free. why did i stay with him for 5 years? im only 21, but i feel so much older, i feel as if i have lived my life already; but i know it is just begining. my life began on april 30, 2007; the day i left, the day i finally got the courage, and forgot about all the excuses i was giving myself not to go; and i left him,and i am very grateful for that strength......

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teach...
May. 20, 2007 at 11:25 PM

Yay for you! Stupid jerk man...he deserves to be alone!

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Rocke...
May. 20, 2007 at 11:27 PM So proud of you!!!  You ARE a strong woman and you deserve to be treated with love AND respect!!!  Good for you!

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Nursi...
May. 20, 2007 at 11:27 PM way to go!  Thats so awesome!

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asold...
May. 20, 2007 at 11:28 PM  my day was august 9,2001  why I stayed, I guess I took his threats seriously, and for our baby, but we are so much happier, I have remarried, we have a family, we have a partnership, and it feels great, I am so proud for you, and the hard choice you made, you do deserve to be happy, and live your dreams, and make the family youve wanted, congrats

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Lovet...
May. 20, 2007 at 11:28 PM you know they say it only takes 21 days to break a bad habit! looks like you did it!! you need to feel proud. and you need to enjoy being young and beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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gcgmama
May. 20, 2007 at 11:30 PM

i am so happy for you

i am married to an abuser we have been seperated for five years and have no contact except for divorce court

be strong even when you have bad days it is worth it but don't be afraid to seek counseling for the bad days being a victim is like a disease and we need constant reassurance to prevent relapse i wish you the best

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Mamac...
May. 21, 2007 at 6:50 AM Congratulations!! I'm so happy for you!  I know how hard it is to finally get the strebgth and courage to leave.

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almos...
Jul. 12, 2007 at 8:00 AM wow im so proud of u i bet ur alot happier now that pig is out of ur life

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