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A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is one that is set up according to Biblical standards; that is, the husband is the authority in the household. The wife is submissive to her husband as is fit in the Lord and her husband loves her as himself. He has the ultimate authority in his household, but it is tempered with the knowledge that he must answer to God for his actions and decisions. He has the authority to spank his wife for punishment, but in real CDD marriages this is taken very seriously and usually happens only rarely. CDD is so much more than just spanking. It is the husband loving the wife enough to guide and teach her, and the wife loving the husband enough to follow his leadership. A Christian marriage embodies true romance and a Christian man a true hero. [\quote]

Frequently Asked Questions for Men
by: Sir Don

Why does my wife want to be spanked?

Because she needs to feel that you are in charge and because she has been acting in less than a way a proper wife should.

Do I have to spank her to tears?

Yes, by spanking her to tears you are allowing her to fully submit and be humbled for her actions.

Isn't spanking just for kinky play ?

No, it is a great form of behavior modification and attitude adjustment.

Does it need to be on the bare bottom?

Yes, by having her bottom spanked bare will increase the effectiveness of the spanking and help to teach her.

What if it doesn't work, and her behavior continues?

Some problems require more than one discipline, you will need to spank her again.

What instrument should I use?

The best by far is always the hand, it is safer then other things, and besides you always have it with you.

What if I am mad, could I hurt her?

If angry at the time, put her in the corner and take that time to cool down, once you have gotten control of your anger then spank her.

Can't I just listen to her instead ?

No, she has all the girlfriends she need to listen to her, she needs you to be strong and correct her behavior.

I have never spanked her before not even for play. will it hurt her?

If a wife has her bottom bared and is spanked, yes it will hurt, that is the purpose of it, and helps to better her behavior.

Is this something new?

No, couples for generations have been using spankings in a loving way.
just watch any old movies or t.v. shows.

Will I have to always monitor her behavior?

No, after a little while she will become contrite and submit to you as her HOH, have her keep a journal so when needed it can be reviewed.

Will that mean she is my slave?

No, not at all, this is about loving, taking the time to correct her out of love.
You do not own her, she has a mind, but she respects you and willingly submit.

the world requires men only to be responsible and accountable for their thoughts, their feelings and their actions. Women, he suggested, are always permitted to blame others for what they think and feel and do.

women do not highly value logic at the best of times and that they detest it when they are emotionally upset.

When a woman has not been punished for some time the memory of the painful spanking she received due to her bad behavior will start to fade and the wife's attitude may change for the worse, with a regular maintenance spanking she is reminded of just how painful a punishment spanking is and that she is required at all times to act accordingly.

Remember that just as with a punishment spanking a maintenance spanking should be done long and hard enough to produce tears, allowing her to cry freely and release any stress she has built up, feeling the energy of your masculinity, and the love you both share for each other.

Even amidst all the talk about domestic violence and women's liberation, most wives know when they need it.

Hello everyone,
I just finished reading Leah's delightful story about the silicone spatula and I was retelling it to my husband, he suggested I should contribute some of my experiences. Just the other day he had a pile of long coffee stirrers sitting on the dresser he plans to use them as plant markers in our garden well somehow we got to discussing spanking tools and I jokingly said I wouldn't mind if he used one of those stirrers. Much to my surprise his response was roll over so down came the panties and as I'm rolling over I'm thinking this is funny!!!! Not Funny at all, ladies, that little bitty thing stung like the dickens when snapped against my bottom. Also a lot of people talk about hairbrushes, just remember they come in all sizes and shapes. We were away for the weekend one time when I got sent into a drugstore to purchase a hairbrush because my husband said I needed one for that night{seems I had somehow forgotten the large wooden one at home} okay yes it was on purpose-well anyway still trying to have some of the control I purchased a seemingly safe brush, it was about 8 inches long with an ivory plastic handle,plastic bristles coming out of a RUBBER base! oh fool that I was I didn't realize the impact that darn weighted base would have but OUCH! I soon found out. That was some years ago and it is still one of his favorites and a reminder to me that if I had just obeyed in the first place I wouldn't still be paying for my disobedience. I'd love to hear more stories from other CDD wives about their experiences with their HOH's {tools of the trade}. Blessings to all, Daisy
P.S. I love this site wish it existed years ago and I'm sure it is a blessing to all the newbies out there, and I know it is for someone like me who has wanted to share with other likeminded Christians for years.

i am very religious being that i am Pentecostal. i firmly believe that my husband is my earthly Master, as Sarah called Abraham master, so i want to do the same. However, Jesus is Master of master's, Lord of lords, and King of kings. Thus i address my husband as my earthly Master.. Am i alone in this???

W8ting2BRaptured AKA: Wendy

Thank you very much Daisy for your responce to my question. i address Roger as master almost all the time, except in public situations. However even then i find that i address him as master but only so that he can hear me. i also used to use capital I's when refering to myself, but whereas i am submissive by God's order, my husband is a master in the bdsm world for a longer period of time. As his wife, if i use a capital letter when refering to myself, it means in his style that i am not showing humility. Trust me that took this college graduate sometime to adjust to, but with my earthly Master, i am totaly submissive 24/7. Many see this as a sexual game, or only for the bedroom, but we live it everyday of the week and it feels right and keeps me in line to be a 24/7 submissive wife. Be well and be blessed.

Hi Stephen,

I am glad you and your wife have decided to start using DD.

1. Do I have to use a warm-up everytime?
I recommend that you use only your hand the first few times you have to spank your wife. It seems to work best to start slowly and gently and gradually work up to harder and faster. If you use a haibrush or paddle, then yes you should warm up her bottom with your hand first.

2. Does it have to be these long, drawn out spankings to be effective?
Every case is different, but in general, yes an effective spanking takes time. Generally you need to explain what she did wrong. Get her to talk about it. Scold her for her misbehavior. Explain what her punishment will be. Spank her long and hard enough for her to not want a repeat. Give her some time in the corner to think about her actions and her sore bottom (sometimes corner time can happen before the spanking). Then hold her and let her know how much you love her. When there are children in the house it can be hard to take this kind of time, but do the best you can.

3. Do I have to use paddles, belts, etc, to be effective, or can I just use my hand?
You will have to find out whether a paddle or belt is necessary for your wife. I usually use only my hand, but there is a wooden hairbrush in our bathroom that can and will get used when necessary.

4. How do I know when it's done? Is there something I can be looking for in her reactions?
This will require some trial and error. I have found that I need to force myself to keep going longer than I would like to in order for her to really get the message. Be sure to spank her beyond the point where she has stopped resisting and is accepting the spanking.

5. Do you give warnings, or is spanking warranted automatically for everytime she speaks disrespectfully?
I do not give warnings for the three Ds, Disobedience, Disrespect, and Dishonesty. I do give warnings for things we haven't talked about.

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May. 22, 2007 at 1:58 AM I 've heard about this. I think it's sad how some religions twist things to their liking. Of-course men are going to twist things to their advantage.

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May. 22, 2007 at 2:34 AM

I would never let a man hit me because some sick group thinks it is right. Let a man try and hit me and will see who is layed out on the floor. It won't be me.

I still can't wrap my head around this whole site. It just boggles me.


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May. 22, 2007 at 7:05 AM I went over to that site and gave my opinion which was well blunt, and then i got a comment along the lines of i wonder what she looks like, what does that have to do with anything?..if i dont look good enough does that make me a candidate for their so called spankings?...funny none of them had their pictures up...and what about the wives who address their husbands as master but not in public..huh..why not?..gee i wonder. they know that this is a ridiculous way to justify their secret s/m bdsm fetish and then call it christianity and hide...

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May. 22, 2007 at 8:23 AM

This is so disturbing

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May. 22, 2007 at 9:35 AM I would just like to know who spanks him for his "disrespectful, dishonest and disobedient" actions, I'm a Christian but this is absurd!!

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May. 22, 2007 at 10:05 AM This whole concept is almost funny to me.Don't get me wrong, it is disturbing, unless you're into that kind of thing. It just evokes mental images in my little pea brain that make me laugh out loud. I have to go now. I need a spanking,

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May. 22, 2007 at 10:14 AM Just another way misguided minds interpret the Bible!!  Go figure!

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May. 22, 2007 at 10:28 AM ok i like being spanked in the bedroom its kinky,But to spank me because i didnt do something write or was doing something he didnt like PLEASE! Dont think i would hal of and knock him out cold lol....but in reality they yell abuse and taking your kids from u (i have seen this happen before) if u spank your kids anymore so why be allowed to spank your wife without her yell abuse and getting him thrown in jail?

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May. 22, 2007 at 10:32 AM

And again - several have touched on this idea...

If you are INTO BDSM and the dom/sub lifestyle - GREAT... More power to ya. If that's what you're into, fine. Lots of folks are. But I'm willing to bet these folks look at the "traditional" BDSM community (wow - using "traditional" to describe that, huh...) and call it an abomination or something like that. I'm sure they are not willing to embrace NON Christian BDSM because it is sexual kink.

The issue I have isn't with the idea of spanking, or anything like that - if that's what thrills you - go for it.

The issue I have here is that these folks are saying it's the woman's duty to allow this, the man's responsibilty to DO it, and that if the woman doesn't WANT to be "disciplined" she should be MADE to submit (spanked until tears - until beyond when SHE wants it to stop.)

In the BDSM world - there are "safe" words - when the sub reaches a point of "too much" they can use their safe word for it to stop. These ladies HAVE no out.

The next thought - what are they teaching their children?

Their boys are going to grow up thinking it's OK to hit women.

Their girls are going to grow up expecting to be hit.

And worse still - there is no arguing, no making a point with this type of person because they have twisted it so that in their minds, this is God's will and those who don't understand, or who condemn the behavior, are just ignorant of God's true will.

It's  unbelievably frustrating, and truly disgusting. 

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May. 22, 2007 at 11:46 AM All I have to say is that whip better have some feathers on it!  Seriously, though--a little demented, isn't it?

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