When does this get easier and more enjoyable?

[Jaqui]

Don't get me wrong, I love my kids to the ends of the earth. They give me a reason to wake up every morning. But..

When does this get easier? Noah is 6, Gracie is 3 and Logan is 9 months. I feel like I'm am constantly in an uphill battle just to not get screamed at, spit at, loose my temper, keep a house running smoothly and make it through the day without crying, feeling defeated and having had a shower.

Noah is my classic ADHD child constantly pushing me to the far limits of insanity and then well past that. he argues with me through every aspect of my day while finding time to scream,kick and ridicule his sister. He is so mean to her it almost makes me cry. Not only verbally , but physically. I've witnessed him throw her down and kick her in the face giving her bloody noses, I've seen him scream things like "Mom and Dad are going to move and not take you with them." It's horrible and I feel like I'm all over him all day, just making sure he behaves like a civilized person. I punish him severely when I catch these atrocities, but I can't be there to catch everything. I feel like I'm sure a lot of moms feel,like I need to don a stripped shirt and a whistle just to keep the peace. When he's a good kid, he's great. But when a mood strikes him I question what God was thinking when He gave me a kid like this. I know He does everything for a reason, but honestly, right now, I don't know how this is going to turn out.

Lately the big game in our house is "how can we bring mom to tears?" Noah and Logan share a room and Gracie has her own room. All the bedrooms are upstairs. So When I put Logan down for a nap, everybody MUST be downstairs, or else inevitably a fight will break out and Noah will make Gracie cry and or scream. Which I can't have that with a sleeping baby upstairs. Also when Logan goes down for his mid-morning nap, that's my window of opportunity to take a shower. Well, unfortunately I can't play ref if I'm in the shower. Mind you, I only need like 20 minutes. I'm pretty efficient. But always,always..as soon as I turn off that water, I hear screams coming from all sides. Sometimes I even find that when I check on the commotion Gracie is bleeding from her mouth or nose and in hysterics. I can't get a straight story from anyone what really happened, which at this point dosen't really matter because I've got Logan who has just been startled awake and is now going into a screaming fit which triggers an asthma attack. I"m  just standing in my hallway dripping wet from my shower, wearing a towel, holding an asthmatic, now wheezing baby and have a bloody 3 year old in hysterics, all the while, Noah is in his room screaming at me that " he hates me and wants a different mom"

Best job ever!!! I'm so glad I quit my job and devote myself to my awesome children!!!

Just had to vent. I really do love my kids, I'm just having a rough patch.

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[JvilleMama]

Jun. 10, 2007 at 8:17 PM

aw im sorry you are having such a rough time. You def have your hands full. I cant really offer any advice but I do hope things will calm down for you soon.

If not you can always call that super nanny show, hehe.

[UVAmommy]

Jun. 11, 2007 at 10:46 AM

I know, I know! Your house sounds like mine. I have a 2.5 month old, a 2 year old, and a 4 year old and the fighting is CONSTANT! I can't even nurse the baby without interruptions and demands: "Mommy she pinched me!" and "NOOOOOOO I won't do that!" I can't even remember how many time-outs I've administered this week & to whom . In fact, just last week we had a 'blue paint' incident at a craft store (don't ask, I'm still recovering from the trauma of it all!) , BUT I have been told that things do get better. I've been measuring 'better' by the amount of 'good moments' per day we have. Like yesterday, we 'painted rocks' for our garden outside. It was a great moment and best of all - no one was fighting! So I guess you and I should just hang in there! Take care!

[shanelaclaire]

Jun. 24, 2007 at 10:40 PM

It get easier when they move out and have kids of their own then they realize how hard they were on you. I have 5 (15 yrs-6yrs) and I am always kept on my toes. The best thing I can do to regain some sanity is to find a physical hobby that I can do. I personnally do TaeKwonDo but when the kids were younger I just threw them in the wagon and took them for a walk. Cleared my head and got me out of the house. I always made up a cleanning schedule for the 6 days of the week I gave myself one day off a week. For example bathrooms are cleaned on Mondays, Kitchen is cleaned on Tuesday, bedrooms are done on Wednesday, Thrusdays is laundry, Friday is ironing/folding and putting clothes away, Sataurday is pet duties (litter boxes and yard pick up) Sunday was my day off. Since I had a dish washer I emptied it every morning and left the kids put their dishes into it (they all had plastic) and it was ran nightly. I also solved the fighting my placeing both involved in a time out in the pantry area so that i could watch them and they had nothing to play with. Hang in there kids are a handful.

[momchef1972]

Aug. 13, 2007 at 4:05 PM *hugs*  we go to the park sometimes when it gets really crazy.