Best friend and another relationship...

[happymommy61503]

hmmm.....tonight I am pretty happy and relaxed. That doesn't happen too often. I am happy becase one friendly relationship is re-kindling. He is my best friend EVER. We had lost contact for quite a while and when I finally got ahold of him he yelled at me....ever since, it's been great and we chat all the time. I hope we never lose contact again.

Now on the other hand the one man I am in love with is no longer interested in me...I don't know what to do. I really love him and want to get him hooked "again". Realistically I don't think that will happen, but I can hope, right??? I just don't know how to get him to want me w/o pushing him away. For now I just talk with him when I can.....I want him.

I am incredibly sad to say: I think I messed up too severly to ever be forgiven. He called me and I asked him what he was doing he said he was with a lady friend. I was being nosy and said well are you going to stay the night with her or vice versa? He told me he was going to her place. I could cry a million tears and drown myself over this.

[Nefertigirl]

Jun. 12, 2007 at 2:58 AM well the man you 'love' who is no longer interested...I would recommend not investing in someone who will not love you back. He made his decision, and no matter how hard you try, it's not going to work - his loss really.  I know you still have feelings, but perhaps this is a sign to move on and allow yourself to love again.  Only true soul mates will eventually find one another, and that is a bond you cannot break...so ...your decision, really.  good luck

[happymommy61503]

Jun. 12, 2007 at 3:01 AM

Thank you. I agree with you. I voted on my own and ummm...yeah I picked if it's meant to be....

Thank You so much for your opinion.

(Original Poster)

[amandasrainbow]

Jul. 29, 2007 at 8:50 AM

There's nothing wrong with hoping; however I agree with the 1st responder; if it hasn't gone any where; don't invest too much time with it.

I had an "open" relationship for 3 yrs with a hero of mine; then I just realized and had to come to terms that he'll never settle down; so I moved on; to this day it hurts even to look at him (yes I avoid him). He got pretty upset when I announced I was married again.

Please live your life in forward............

Happy Sunday;

Amanda

[mommazlove]

Aug. 26, 2007 at 2:15 PM Hey! I totally believe that "if it's meant to be,  it will be";  however, in the case where he is 1)with another lady and 2) going to her place,well,girlfriend, he's just not that into you and you need to be emotionally and mentally literate enough to read the signs/billboards and move on. I picked up a neat little book called "He's Just Not That  Into You", which sounds harsh, but really turned out to be very realistic and gentle reminders of the things we already know, did'nt learn, or plumb forgot! Respect yourself enough to wait for someone that respects and IS INTO *YOU*! I did, and couldn't be happier! Good luck,God bless,and respect yourself.Be kind to yourself, and learn your own self! Peace~Dianne

[happymommy61503]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 5:43 AM Thank You ladies I hadn't read this in a long time. It's great getting back on here and re-reading. I appreciate the advice! It's all true and nice to read. Have a great week!

(Original Poster)