Tracy I miss talking to you , I really thought that we were going to become friends , If you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you , I am not married But I am a good Listener and I never Judge anyone and I am a very good friend and My friendship is Uncnditional . Hugs .

Patricia

angelmommie39 Jun. 13, 2007 at 9:58 PM

Being married is never easy. If someone says it is then they are lying or a future divorcee. I am so not the person to be giving advice. Everyday I wish I were somewhere else even if it is only for a minute. I say bravo to you and your family. If you are willing to go through 5 counselors then there must be something there worth saving. I hope for your sake that it works out for you. Being married isn't easy but for me,  not being married would be so much harder, I would really miss him. Luck and Thoughts!

Liansmommie Jul. 14, 2007 at 3:51 AM

Well, I know that marriage or a relationships are very hard. I am on my second marriage, I am praying this will be my last. We have our issues but we are still working on getting it right.. I think it is a working issues

keep it positive

siggyt Sep. 5, 2007 at 12:32 PM

It's not easy that's for sure.  We get along a lot better than we did in our first year or two married, but it is no bed of roses that's for sure.  I would love to get counseling but dh would never ever go for it - he is a construction worker and every construction worker stereotype completely applies to him.  He considers himself a "man's man".

Elizabeth4980 Sep. 19, 2007 at 7:58 PM

((((hugs)))) I applaud you for being married for 13 years!  That in itself is a alot to be proud of.  And the fact that you are trying to make things better says alot about your character and strength, some people would just call it quits when the going gets tough.

Let me tell you, my first marriage ended in divorce, and staying married is so much better, for you and the kids.  If you have an ounce of love left in you for your dh, do whatever you can to build on it.  It is worth it!  Finding a counselor that is a good fit for you is key.  I've found that a male counselor is actually more productive than a female because men tend to put more faith in what another man says.  So, if you went to a female counselor and she said, "You need to give your wife more attention", he might just think, "Yeah, they're ganging up on me", but if a man says it, he'll actually consider it and maybe even try to do it, KWIM?

Blessedw5 Apr. 21, 2008 at 12:52 PM