This is getting ridiculous

[MommyofKaelyn]

Im losing my mind! Its mostly everything he does anymore... my husband that is. He is sooo immature. He got this truck a few months ago a big huge lifted pile of crap, it was a gas guzzler and every other day needed a part. FINALLY I got him to get rid of the darn thing and he bought a motorcycle. Hey I love motorcycles no biggie, I was way cool with it. BUT, in the last 2 weeks he has dropped it twice and got 3 tickets. One of which was for him doing a WHEELIE I swear Im losing my dang mind. I told him when he was riding like a jack *@# that he was going to either lose his license to this motorcycle or he was going to kill himself, and well he is proving me right. BUT god forbid I say anything to him about anything he is doing.

He just gets sooo furious and yells at me, the other day he wrecked his bike this was the second time, and well I think I have just about had it. I was just yelling at everything about it. We have been going through some financial hardships since the seperation, and I am the one taking care of all the finances, and there isnt much to work with. And then he keeps doing this crap.

His point is that I seem to not even care about him, he says the first thing I do is get pissed at him, not even asking how he is. Maybe I am cruel, cold hearted, or numb. Not sure. Or maybe just fed up. I want to be married to a MAN not a child. I do love him, but this is crazy. I was thinking.. is there a way I can get him to realize the consequence of his actions.. OH goodness I sound like he is my child... UGH. I need help ladies.. Advice.... Please... Im soooo stressed and I know that if I just put it all on his plate nothing will get taken care of, I have tried that before, and he bought a ton of stuff he didnt need and the bill money was gone in two days...

 I need creative ideas so I turn to my lady friends on this one..

[azmomoffour]

Jan. 23, 2007 at 4:36 PM i girl im so sorry you are having so many problems. you are really in a hard place. I honestly dont think there is anything I could say to you that you dont already know.  hes not willing to change probably never will. Men wont change unless they want to . maybe your just going to be better off if you cut your loss with him and try to move on. You are pretty much doing that now. Im here if you need to talk Im so sorry you have to go through all this HUGS!!

[Karamae]

Jan. 31, 2007 at 8:22 PM

It's so hard with husbands.  Children you can at least punish, what can you do to your husband.  Take his bike away?  Yeah, that wouldn't work in my house.

Maybe you can have a clam conversation with him.  Tell him that you don't want to argue and you just want to talk about it because you care about him.

That's the best I can do!