so discouraged

[MrsMacmodels]

I have been fighting with my husband all night and day, we slept in seperate rooms last night, and we have only been married since feb..... ever since i found out i am pregnant he seems worlds away from me,,am i just being too emotional? when i try to tell him how i feel he gets defensive and starts talking mean.....he just left and i dont even know what to do....i do it all around here, always have, i even bring in all the money , he wont even change a shitty diaper because he says it makes him gag......ok, i know i am venting right now to God knows who, but I cant call anyone in my family, all I hear is I told you so!!! I love my husband, I hate how he is 30 and acts 18 at times......all I want is to be a family, I live for my kids, they are #1 and he cant handle that....we have no kids together except the one in my tummy and now i am second guessing my whole life...do I really want this marriage? this baby? i want whats best for the children and myself, and the stress he is putting me under is not good for anyone!!!  I feel so frusterated and sad inside, but still walk around with a smile on my face so the kids cant tell ..... I know when i said my vows its was for better or worse, but im no sure how much worse i can take!

[Valerie1245]

Jun. 16, 2007 at 4:45 PM Sounds like you need a night out with your husband. See if you can find a babysitter so you two can spend some time alone and not have to worry about kids or work. Just being home along together would probably be great for the both of you. Good luck.

[atkc56]

Jun. 16, 2007 at 4:48 PM

I know just how ya feel!!! I am the same way. I feel worlds apart from my husband and our son is here. He can't do anything with Hunter unless Me or his mother  are around. Women tend to take to the domestic life better than men. However alot changes once the baby is actually here. He is probably scared of how to provide and how to take care of a new life. Its really a scary yet exciting time in a couples life.

I learned to lean on God alot. I have a quick temper and when my husband and I fight I have to use self control and the only way I get that is through Christ. Sometimes we have to lead the way by example and just pray for God to take care of the rest. I will keep you in my prayers!!!

[BLOWDRYQUEEN]

Jun. 16, 2007 at 4:48 PM

I AGREE WITH THE LAST COMMENT, HOWEVER IF IT DOESN'T CHANGE YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU. YOU DON'T WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR WONDERING WHAT IF!

GOOD LUCK