Thoughts needed for my MIL

[tampachelle]

My MIL is only 64yrs old yet she is in an assisted living facility and not doing well at all.  She was a deputy, retiring only 4yrs ago due to her health.  Her symptoms started about 6yrs ago and have gotten progressively worse.  She went from being a very active lady to falling down, using a cane, sitting in a wheelchair, having a feeding tube and now a suction line.  This all happened in the last 3yrs.  Dh is visiting her now along with his sister and brother - all from out of state/town where she lives.  She had made a request to see them all soon as of last weekend.  I do think it will be their last visit with her.  She never wanted to live this way but this disease (supranuclear palsy) has taken way too much from her in too short of a time.  DH comes home Tuesday after dropping his brother off at the airport in Atlanta.  Then he'll get to celebrate Father's Day - we thought this weekend with his mom was more important.  Please keep her in your thoughts!

[JENNYSMOM]

Jun. 17, 2007 at 11:44 PM

Tampachelle,

I'm so sorry to hear about your MIL being ILL I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please keep me posted.

God Bless,

Lurena

[SweetMom2005]

Jun. 18, 2007 at 10:52 AM Oh my god I am so sorry :(

[tampachelle]

Jun. 18, 2007 at 1:35 PM

Thanks ladies!  Dh says that SIL talked non-stop about her mother dying right in front of her the entire weekend!  She was trying to divy stuff up right in front of her and kept saying she'd see her in heaven one day!  AUGH!  Once she taught dh to use her feeding tube she kept repeating how disgusting it was and that she didn't want to touch it anymore.  I know he was ready to kill his sister!  She left yesterday (Sunday) so dh and my BIL can spend today with her and maybe get some things settled with their mom.  The day will come when my SIL thinks of someone besides herself... maybe!  AUGH!             

(Original Poster)

[acgmommie]

Jun. 19, 2007 at 8:47 PM

oh Tampa, I am sorry it took me so long to read your post :(

I am so sorry to here about your MIL. I hope that if she did not want to live this way, Your DH will understand. If she lets go,. he needs to let her go. My Grandfather died a few years ago, and he hung on as long as he could he was miserable. As soon as my sister finally came to the Hospital, he let go. It was a very hard time, but he was tired. I miss him terrible, but it really was time for him to go. I dont know if this helps, but I thought it might help to here someone elses story.

I will pray for you and your family.

TTYSOON

Phenitia

[kevins3angels]

Jun. 19, 2007 at 10:35 PM I am keeping your family in my prayers. I know this is a hard time my MIL has been on a feeding tube for 5yrs she has MS and has been bed redden for the past 10yrs.