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[GossamerBloom]

Well, I'm in my 6th week of pregnancy, so about 5 weeks actual baby time. On Friday morning I got up, went to work, and discovered that I was bleeding. Now I know that this early even if you do miscarry, there's nothing they can do. But it still freaked me out. I quick called my husband and rushed home to pick up him and my son. We went to the emergency room to find out what the problem was. I have a preference for female doctors, partially because before my son's birth, the only man to see me naked was my husband, so some guy examining me freaks me out just a smidgen. So back to the emergency room... they didn't really have anyone for me to see, so they checked my vitals, asked if I was cramping (which I was) and took a whole bunch of blood. I waited for about a half hour and they sent me, with my lab results, to a clinic down the street, to see a family doctor who does allot of ob work.

The nurse came in, took a short history, mostly wanted to know how many pregnancies I've had (just the one with my son) and my weight. They didn't do a full history at all. *a little weird, but OK..* The doctor came in, didn't examine me at all. Told me that since I had bleeding, it was a threatened miscarriage and that I had about a 50% chance that I would lose the baby. Pretty much her main thing was to make sure I had enough iron in my system so that when, not if, I began bleeding heavily I wouldn't become anemic. I couldn't believe it. She wanted me to go back to the hospital on Sunday so they could do a quantitative hCG test and see if the levels had risen or fallen. She said, well, if they don't go up then we can confirm a miscarriage and make sure it's taking care of itself. She sent the nurse in to give me a rhoGAM shot. The nurse called her on the phone and said "am I supposed to be giving her the full dose? It says on the box to give a mini dose for pregnancies ending before 13 weeks." We didn't even know yet! That made me so upset, I can't even put it into words. The doctor didn't say, oh, take it easy, take some time off and rest. Nothing.

So, on Monday when the results came back she called me and told me that the hormone levels didn't double, but they did go up. This is not a conclusive answer so I had to go back to the hospital today for another test. At least this time she said that it might be a viable pregnancy. I think she was genuinely surprised. Hopefully tomorrow I will get a conclusive answer. 

I haven't had any bleeding or cramping since Friday morning before we got to the hospital. Maybe that's why it's so frustrating to have a doctor be so flippant, expecting the worst. I know that they don't want to get my hopes up, but  I feel like she didn't do anything to even check.

I know that it is different having a small hospital and living in a small town but it's not comforting being in this type of situation. I delivered my son at the Mayo Clinic. I had an amazing OB, and although she wasn't there for the delivery, I had the doctor who wrote The Mayo Guide to Pregnancy deliver my baby. I know I'm not going to get anything like that here, but it is still so frustrating.  

[luvmybaby]

Jun. 20, 2007 at 12:01 AM Im so sorry, I hope everything turns out ok.

[vanessadalton25]

Jun. 20, 2007 at 12:15 AM

I'm sorry the doc was such a jerk. I hope everything turns out ok. I had bleeding with my first and he is perfectly healthy. I'll be thinking of you!!!

[MissyMoosMom]

Jun. 20, 2007 at 4:03 AM

Oh hon I am so sorry!  Please don't judge all the docs here by one being a jerk!  I know for a long time I really wanted a female doctor too....but here is my advice.  When I was preggo with my second child they referred me to an OBGYN at MedCenter One.  His name is Dr. Zubernis....he is amazing!  I wish he was a family doc so I could see him all the time!  darn him LOL.....I would HIGHLY recommend you get a second opinion with him.  He did an amazing job with my little guy who was a preemie...and so caring!  I just know he will put you at ease!  Keep me posted on how you are doing!

~ Danielle ~

[Dakotasmom3805]

Jun. 20, 2007 at 10:05 AM Omg, I'm so sorry to hear that. I know first hand what jerks ER doctors can be. About 5 weeks after I found out I was pregnant with my son, I started bleeding, so I went to the hospital, and they told me I was never even pregnant....needless to say, I got a dr's appt the next day, and he told me that I had been pregnant with twins but I had lost one. I'm so lucky to have my son! I've had 4 miscarriages since, the last one I was 6 months along, so I know all about disappointment! If you need to talk, let me know! I'll be praying that everything works out!

[larissacst]

Jun. 20, 2007 at 11:58 AM i recently moved to a small town right outside of austin and had to go to hospital for asthma. it was the first time i ever left an er still not being able to breathe (and i;ve been a lot) maybe it's a small town thing. i hope you and your baby will be okay.  God bless

[ndmama]

Jun. 23, 2007 at 3:23 PM Hi, I'm new around here and just read your post.  When I was pregnant with my first son, I had some weird bleeding probably about the same time as you are now.  It scared the crap out of me because I had had a miscarriage 2 months previous.  Anyhow, the doctor I go to tried to find the heartbeat and sent me to the hospital to get an ultrasound done and to make sure the little bean was doing okay.  It was pretty cool because I actually got to see him at 9 weeks!  But I'm glad that things worked out for you and it sucks about your doctor being dumb :(