Feeling like a bad mom......

[myangelemma]

I don't know how many of you are stay-at-home moms but those of you who are know what it's like to be cooped up inside all day.  My daughter Emma is 3 now and although she is the miracle of my life, there are times when I truly just need a break!  The only good thing is that my husband knows how hard it is and appreciates what I do.

Having a 3 year old in the house 24/7 with no other siblings is a hard job!  Today Emma was horrible at our weekly Wal Mart trip, dropping goldfish all over the newly sweeped floor.  I was so embarrased.  She commands my attention nonstop and while I wouldn't trade my job for anything in the world, sometimes I really need some alone time. 

My husband teaches at our local university and the new semester has started and he is working long hours, some days leaving before Emma gets up and not coming home until she is in bed so the change is getting to me I think. 

I am blessed to be able to stay home and I'm trying to remember that in between the temper tantrums but ug! it's hard!

Thank you for listening!

Hugs to all, Donna

[CEastep]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:06 PM Girl, you need an ultimate girls night in!

[yellowlady]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:07 PM You can do it!  I have a two year old and a three year old and there are some days when i think I just want to run away!  But you are a wonderful and special woman to have the patience to be able to stay at home-it truely is a blessing for you and your baby!   I will be praying for you!

[nailz98]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:09 PM i know exactly what you are going thru. i have a 2 year old at home and he's a handful most of the time, he's even worse when him and his sister are together, all they do is fight.

[Sadie0629]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:09 PM I know how ya feel !am at home right now with my jasmyn who's also 3. She's an only child . When I really can't take it I bring her over to play with her cousins who are 5. Maybe ya can find a playgroup, or if you have a mall with a playland in it..

[Sunchaser]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:11 PM

You are not a bad mom for feeling this way. Everyone feels this way sometimes... I know, I have felt this way. Even though I have 2 boys. One is 13 and the other almost 5.. I am also home all day with my 4 year old. My problem is kinda the opposite though, my 4 year old is wonderful when it is just he and I. The real trouble starts when my 13 year old comes home or when I take them both to the store.

There is one exception though, when my 4 year old gets bored or doesn't want to do something... WATCH OUT!  IT IS GOING TO BE ONE OF THOSE DAYS!

You are fine, it is a normal thing.... ask your husband to give you a break. When he is home go to the store and take a little longer... LOL

That is what i do, i always feel better after that...

Good luck, and don't be so hard on yourself... it is fine to need a break!

[Glisteningmom]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:11 PM

You are right... You are very lucky to stay at home with your kids. I don't hardly see mine. I see them for 20 mins in the morning while I am hustling us all to get out to the car... Then, I see them a few hours every night... Our real time together is on the weekend. I wish that I could stay home with my babies... I also know that the flip side has its offpoints. Staying home with your kids has a tug on you some days and often, you just need some alone time... Maybe a relaxation time away would help... Once a week... Try it. I did when I was at home with mine... Unfortunately, paternity leave was only 6 weeks so I had to go back. That was July 2005... lol..  Be safe.

[Baps]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:12 PM I understand. Is there a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers)  group near you? This is a little different than a regular play group. There are two separate programs, one for mom and one for baby. Childcare is part of the program...it only cost about $5 a class. Mom's get a break from the little ones while the little ones get to play with other children their age. A nice break when it's just you and the little one all day.

[bigblueeyes]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:12 PM i'm in the same boat.....dh has been working hours like that for the last couple years.....we also have a ds that is about ot turn 1....dd will be 5......we also only have one vehicle so the kids and i are truely stuck when dh is at work!!!!!......i'm glad i have the opportunity to stay home with the kids but dh and i are missing each other.....we're working on finding something that won't require so much away time

[myangelemma]

Jan. 24, 2007 at 5:17 PM

Thank you all for your wonderful comments.  Emma does go to preschool 2x a week but it's only for 2 hours at a shot.  I guess I'm just having a bad day and it's hard when there is no one around who can give you a break, both grandmas live away so it's tough. 

Blessings to all!

(Original Poster)

[jan34twat]

Aug. 12, 2007 at 8:46 PM it may not seem like it but she will soon be in school ant then the years start flying my sons r now 15 16 17