How does anyone do it?

[Amnicole2007]

I am sitting here thinking how does anyone do it with three children. I have a 3, 2 and 2 month old at home. I stay at home and am going crazy. The house is always a mess no matter how hard I try to clean it up. It seems like it is a never ending thing. Anyone with advice please help me out. I'd appreciate it very much. My 3 and 2 year old does not take naps for anything. Not matter how hard I try. I make them sit in the room with me lay down on the floor and watch a movie. I have no clue what to do anymore. Any advice is great.

Thanks

Amber  

[Komonik]

Jun. 26, 2007 at 12:25 PM Trust me i completely understand where your comming from i have two girls age 7 and 6 who constantly fight all the time arguing over who touched who not adding to the frustration i have a son that jsut turned one in March, who likes to walk around grabbign things and throwing it on the floor as well as picking things u and hitting his sister's with it and laughs.  I get frustrated allot and want to scream.  My son fights his sleep all the time, so to clear my head i take them to park and let them wear themselves out, and if i dont go to the park then i make up my own games that i did in elemetary school so they can have fun.  Kids get bored really easily and will find anything to do to entertain their minds.  Try teaching them musical chairs ti's fun and funny.  Also, try hiding seek.   it may seem silly but hey who's to say your tooold to play those kid games with your kids, it's cool.  I also bought some paint and found a bunch of boxes took them apart so their flat on the ground outside or in the kitchen adn let the kids paint and have fun, if you dont want them messign u their clothes let them do it in their underwear.  I'll think of some other things as well to help the both of us out k.  Smile it's gonna be alright...

[FullTime_Mom]

Jun. 28, 2007 at 11:51 AM

i understand girl...life is always like that around here...hang in there it will get better. I am here if u ever need to talk.

Love Ya,

Christina

[christianmom78]

Jun. 29, 2007 at 10:06 PM Hi there.  Let me just say that your best is always good enough.  Remember, when children are small, your house will never be totally clean and your nerves will never be completely calm.  I tell everyone who asks me how I do it alone with 4 children that you need to let them be children.  Have fun, wear them out, but enjoy them while they are small.  The house can wait.  I do a little at a time and believe me, I am sometimes ocd about tidyness.  You should just see the laundry for 4 kids under 8 and myself.  It's crazy.  The point is:  perfection in unattainable.  I know you are exhausted at the end of the day, but if you can sit down at night and laugh or smile about the day, you have accomplished your job as a mother.  The house may be a bit messy, but that won't change until they are old enough to help.  I would start now with the 3 & 2 year olds.  You can make clean-up a game.  Also, buy a couple of large boxes with lids (toy box, Rubbermaid box, etc) and play toss the toys.  To get my 3yr old and 17mo  old to nap, I do exactly what you do...wear them out starting at 6am and by 12pm, I would be shocked if they didn't just pass out on their own.  Good luck.  It will get tough at times, but you know what, the Lord is there to help you.  Just get on your knees and ask.  He is the only reason I can work full time as a nurse, take care of 4 children, a home, bills etc, and handle a divorce, the loss of my mother and still live a normal life. 

[faith52096]

Jun. 30, 2007 at 7:21 PM I only have two children, but I did babysit for 3 years, and I had 4 kids in the house ages 2,3,and 5, all the time.  I found flylady.net  it really helped me get organzied, and set up routines,  maybe you could check that out??  Prayer is probably the best thing

[lovelymommy83]

Jul. 29, 2007 at 3:49 PM My favorite thing is to make THEM clean up.  Get two boxes, or baskets, and have a race, see whether the 2 year old or 3 year old can pick up more toys in 30 seconds.  Or, when there is laundry to do, throw a pile on the floor, and have them separate it for you into mommy's clothes, daddy's clothes, etc.  My daughter loves to do the dishes, which really means spray the hose at the sink, but at least if she's doing that, she's not making other messes as I try to clean this one!  I let her dust, so I spray a table, and she wipes it off, etc.  Anything that you can get them to do, they are usually more than happy to do it.