Oh geez I cant take this anymore I have been dealing with a husband who constantly critises me and makes me look like a fool or treats me like a 5 yr old when we talk to each other and I finally decided to divorce him late yesterday. I was abused when I was a child and I feel like im in an abusive relationship now. I told my husband I contacted a lawyer yesterday and he got upset and started yelling at me calling me a Bitch and a Horrible Mom to my children and it hurts so bad to hear that because I dont want my kids to be without a mommy and daddy and if I leave they lose their Daddy in a sense and I dont want my kids hating me like my husband says they will. I cant deal with this and my stress level is way up I think I need to go back to Shepard Pratt because my emotional turmoil is killing me inside and I want a guy who will treat me right but I know deep down that no one will want me or thats what my husband has drilled into my head. God why do I have to live with this I want a better life for me and my kids but I dont want my kids to hate me because those girls are my life and if they hated me Ide die!

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Sulli...
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:11 PM

I THINK WE ARE MARRIED TO THE SAME GUY

dENISE

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jalex
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:13 PM They won't hate you...he has nothing else to say.  Do what you need to do, people get divorced everyday.  If the kids see that he is treating you bad, it will be MUCH worse for them growing up.  good luck and I am sorry that you have to deal with this.

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Sulli...
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:15 PM

i UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL I WAS NOT ABUSED AS A CHILD BUT ME & MY HUSBAND ARE LIKE WATER AND OIL WE DON'T MIX AND IT HAS BECOME A WAR WITH US DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU THE KIDS WILL ADJUST KIDS ARE STRONG.

DENISE

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Sulli...
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:16 PM I AGREE WITH JALEX

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Cloud...
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:17 PM

Well its your choice to stay or move on. When you decide to move on, then only you can help your children adjust to the changes going on. Maybe they see what is going on and not sure what to say or do depending on their ages. Yet over time they will come to their own decisions and choice. I have been there done that in an abusive relationship. I have never lied to my children when asked any questions on the divorce or whatnot. I have never called the ex-husband a name unless it was that he was a jerk for not sending the child support like promised. (By the way he is now finally doing). I let my children meet and learn in time on their own about their Father. Yet I am ever ready to help them deal with whatever outcome that happens. Sometimes not good and sometimes good. The thing you need to do is get out and get a life that is happy healthy and good for all of you. Which In My Opinion this isnt it. Do what you must and go from there. Just know you have support here and things will work out in time. Everyone deserves to be happy and healthy. Not to be degraded put down and treated like dirt. Besides your children deserve the best right? Well if being with him is making you the best stay, if not do what you must!
Prayers are said in behalf of your family and yourself.

Have a great day!:)

Kiss the children for me!

I hope this helps and doesnt offend.

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nick
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:19 PM

OOOH I'm so upset right now.... Dont ever let any man make you feel as if you are not worth anything because that is not the case. Stop being afraid your kids will love you no matter what. The more he tells them things about you, you have to work harder to let them know how much you love them and you would never let anything bad happen to them. If you believe in God take out your bible drop to your knees and pray God always makes a way. I am a single parent of three and I'm doing it. So please believe you can too.....

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Chaya...
Jun. 28, 2007 at 3:20 PM

Do you want your children to have a Daddy who calls their mom a bitch and a horrible mother? Especially if you have boys -- they will learn how to treat their future wives by how your husband treats you, and you're not getting the respect you deserve.

 Get help now.

 

www.truth-in-parenting.blogspot.com

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Kriskids
Jul. 8, 2007 at 11:53 PM

Hun I have been there. I know how you are feeling but you need to make you home a happy one for you and the kids. They have not lost their daddy they have gained a happier home cause mom and dad are not fighting any more and they can know that you both still love them and know that you just couldnt live with eachother anymore. You are doing what you feel is the right thing for you and your kids. No one can blame you for that. Just show your kids that you still love them and tell them that their dad stil loves them. Never bad mouth him in front of the kids and be there when they need to talk. Let them know that they did nothing to bring this on.

My heart is with you

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ashl1120
Jul. 12, 2007 at 1:46 AM Just remember that if "Momma ain't happy....nobody's happy!" This is sooo true!  Please be the responsible parent and remove your children from that atmosphere.  They will adjust, believe me.  I was a child of an alcoholic and abusive parent and the best thing my mom ever did was to move us the hell out of there!  Children learn what they live, and you certainly don't want your girls to grow up thinking that they are worthless and don't deserve to be loved.  PLEASE GET OUT NOW!

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Mikeffff
Feb. 26, 2011 at 12:23 PM

Get out. You are not doing your kids any favors by remaining. All you are doing is setting a bad example for them and making them more miserable and confused than they need to be. I wish my parents had gotten divorced.

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