I do, I love her, but I am having a very hard time dealing with her right now.

 She has these violent outbursts and has even drawn blood when she bit her brother.  She steals food from the fridge and pantry in the middle of the night.  She steals stuff from my desk like scissors, markers, and anything else that pleases her.  She then destroys the house when everyone else is asleep.  I have woken up to toothpaste all over the bathroom, dressers destroyed by her punching the bottoms out of the drawers, toilet paper from one end of the house to the other, drawings on walls, etc etc.  I punish her, I make her clean up her messes, I talk to her, I send her to her room, I have done everything I know how to do and nothing is working with her.  I love her so much, but it is killing me that I feel like she is keeping me a prisoner to her whims no matter what I do.  She bites her brothers, and kicks and hits, she screams at the top of her lungs whenever she feels like it.  I have spanked her more in her lifetime than I have both the older boys combined.  Gave up on spanking and tried to follow "natural consequences" but what in heaven's name are the "natural consequences" for screaming in the truck while I am trying to drive?  

 When she is good, she is amazing.  She is brave, and will try things that my 5 yr. old boy is scared to do.  She will climb on the monkey bars like they are her second home.  She has no fear when it is something that she really wants to do.  She can be so loving and cuddly, but then it is almost like she has to ruin it by pinching or hitting or trying to climb on me like I am a jungle gym.  She is rambunctious, but she can also be soooooooo loud.  And when she throws a fit, WATCH OUT!!

 As you can tell, I am confused.  I love her, and there are times I could hold her for hours, if she would let me.  But I am lucky to get 2 minutes of cuddles and loves before she is running off and getting into things again.

 So, just needed to vent because this really gets overwhelming at times.  So if you read this, sorry about that. 

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Jul. 10, 2007 at 2:46 AM If it's that bad maybe you should talk to your ped about her behavior, they may be able to help you with ideas on how to deal with it.

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Jul. 10, 2007 at 2:49 AM I was just wondering...how old is your daughter? Has there been any major/significant changes to her life or routine? Have you ever considered the possibility of having her tested by medical professionals? There are many possible reasons and possible diagnosis that can explain the behavior problems and mulitple, not all include medications, which could help things become more calm and get to the root of the situation and find some peace. Just an idea and I'm hoping it works. Take care and God Bless.

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Jul. 10, 2007 at 2:51 AM She is in the process of an evaluation right now it just takes soooooo long.  The psych has said that she thinks ADHD is ONE problem, but they haven't finished the eval yet, so until they do, no official diagnosis. 

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Jul. 10, 2007 at 2:54 AM

She sounds alot like my daughter, who is 4. She can be very cuddly and sweet but is much more fearless than her 6 year old brother, it's just amazing. She has some developmental delays also, though, so her trouble with speech makes it complicated even more. One thing her psychologist suggested was that it might be early onset bi-polar. For awhile her doctor thought she was autistic, or at least on the spectrum, because her brother is, and alot of her behavior is so hard to figure out.

This probably doesn't help you much, but I really know the feeling of being so frustrated not knowing what to do. I would also say having her evaluated by a professional to see if there is an underlying delay or disorder that is causing her so much upset, it might help you to be able to help her.


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