Another Baby?

[Selahbelle]

       My hubby and I decided that we wanted another baby. When we first got married we decided that we would have no less then two and no more then four children. Currently we have two one girl and one boy. They are the light of our lives and neither of us can imagie life with out either one of our sweet ones.
       In April hubby and I were discussing my upcomming breast reduction when he asked if I would still be able to breastfeed if I got the surgery. I told him no and that I had onl scheduled the consult because I understood that we were done. Then he tells me that if I went and got my IUD removed and got preganat without telling him what I had done he wouldn't be upset. So I stupidly asked, "does this mean you want another baby?" His reply was yes and so I scheduled for the removal of my IUD.
      It is now July and as we have been actively trying to concieve since the end of m cycle in May.
I am very greatful for both of my babies, they are healthy and whole. At times though I can't help but think of my sister who has been desperatly wanted a baby of her own for about 5 years and has had no luck. Then I also think about the frineds of mine who have had their babies in their arms for only a few minutes or hours before their little one became an angel. And I wonder if I am being selfish.
      We have more then enough for the kids we already have and can afford to have at least one more so, from a finacial standpoint we are in good standing. Emotionally we have more then enough love for another baby or two, and from all other aspects it is a good decison. I just wonder if we are being selfish, to be blessed with one child is immeasurable, two is even more so. To be blessed with a third and possibly a fourth would be indescribeable.
I am not questioning the decision to have more babies I am just concerend that others will be bitter, not so much my sister (she's their Godmother), but of friends. I hear "better you then me" alot and the one I hear almost the same amout is "why?". Any advise?

[photomomof4]

Jul. 18, 2007 at 12:37 AM

I am praying for you too!  that the Lord will bless you with another precoius addition to your family IN HIS TME!

[marinabrat]

Jul. 18, 2007 at 12:57 AM good luck on the baby! i am happy for you! keep me posted! julie

[why_b_normal]

Jul. 25, 2007 at 5:53 PM

I don't think you are being selfish at all.  we have four kids.... the oldest three are on the autism spectrum and our 2 month old will begin screenings at 6 months just to "keep an eye" on things.  I get the comments "don't you know how that happens" "are you insane" or "you should have stopped at two" all of the time.  In front of my kids generally.  It gets extremely old extremely quickly!!  But I wouldn't change my kiddos for the world... or how many I have!!

Granted, #3 and #4 were a complete surprise!! We had inteneded to stop at 2!!  LoL  Financially things are rough right now, but still....Keep your faith and let things happen.  Who cares what others think.....

As for those who don't have kids but want them, I actually stopped talking to one of my best friends right before I had #3.  She had been TTC for years and adoption efforts had gone no where.  Luckily by the time we were pregnant with #4, they were able to adopt a little baby from China.  So now we have play dates.  But I believe that if that had not have happened for them, we still wouldn't talk (except for the occassional Christmas card.)  Sad, but true.  It just got too hard for her to be around my kids.  Now that she is a mom, she isn't very happy!!  (Ironically enough.) 

Well, anyway.... I am ranting...  LoL

Best of luck!!   ;)