Babysitter with extended illness - what would you do?

[cafemama]

Our full-time babysitter who sits our son in our home  has been sick for an extended period and we're not
sure how to handle things. Before her illness she was amazing - we were totally satisfied with her. She's worked for us for 6 months. But, for the last 4 weeks she's been out sick all but 4 days and it's
put us in a very difficult situation both financially (because we've been paying her + for backups) and professionally (because we've had  to miss a lot of work). It seems harsh to let someone go because they
are sick, but at the same time I need someone reliable. In addition, I'm questioning her judgement because twice now she's watched my son  for 10 hours then went to the hospital and been admitted because of "weakness". My son is a very active 8-month old so I question how well she can take care of him when she's this sick. And she's not being  very communicative to us about how she's feeling and we really don't have a handle on how sick she is.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and how did you handle it? Do we try to stick with her - we really do like her and thought she did  great work before she got sick? Or do we move on? Advice/Suggestions welcome.

[Unchained]

Jul. 19, 2007 at 8:32 PM I would talk to her and find out whats going on. Then I would tell her that her pay stops within a week. I wouldn't keep paying her and risk your own financial stability. Tell her she can have her job back when she is well again. *hugs* Sorry your having such a rough time.

[lynn909]

Jul. 19, 2007 at 8:35 PM What is her illness? Does she tell you? If it is not legitament than let her go. Anyone knows that if your babysitting for a living, if you are not there, you can't keep the job. If your really close to her, I would find out whats wrong with her. If it is serious, she needs to be at her own home taking care of herself. Is she a live in?

[artisttoo]

Jul. 19, 2007 at 8:36 PM

Explain to her that you cannot afford to pay both her and the one who babysits while she is sick.  Since she is living in your home, tell her you will have to lower her pay while she is ill, maybe even not pay her.  I take it she is eating your food, using your water and electricity,etc. so it's not like she will be destitute if you can't give her much money. 

If it were me, I would want to know exactly what is wrong with her.  Tell her she needs to level with you and give you all the details so you can help her to get well.  If her illness continues much longer, you will have to find a replacement for her.  I hope she gets well quickly for her sake and for yours.

[motherbee]

Jul. 19, 2007 at 8:44 PM

Cafemama,

I have been in a similar situation and it was with a friend who was babysitting my son.She was pregnant at the time and having a difficult time being able to watch my son when she was needed.It is extremely difficult to have to pay two babysitters and also take time off from work if you can't find a back up.Of course you don't want to come off harsh so just let her know that you need to speak with her about the situation.Explain to her that while you think she is a wonderful babysitter for your son,you need to have someone that is able to work as needed and you are concerned that her watching your son may be aggravating her illness.Tell her that without knowing how sick she is and whether this illness will improve,you need to at this time find someone who is able to babysit as needed.For your well being as well as your sons, I believe this is the best option.Good luck.