sometimes its just frustrating!!!

[mommy3ohboy]

I seriously feel so overwhelmed and frustrated about being a mom, and that makes me feel like a bad mother and person.  i have three kids and you'd think i'd figure out the whole parenting thing by now, but each and everyday its something new.  i love my role and i love my kids but i seem to have lost who i am in this whole situation of life.  i do absolutly nothing for myself as i feel it should be but i cant even go to the bathroom without one of my kids there.  i feel helpless.  my husband and i have to work opposite shifts so we dont need to pay for a sitter.  3 kids and a sitter is pretty expensive these days.  so i dont ven see him and that is a problem too.  i often wonder what am i doing wrong?  i dunno.  i just needed to vent to someone about this.  i hope everyone and their familys are doing well.  take care!!!!

[nldeviney]

Jul. 21, 2007 at 4:35 PM

I think a lot of mother's (myself included) can definitely relate! It is very challenging to balance everything. Sometimes, I believe, you just have to be selfish. If you need a day or an hour to yourself, take it! Find a way. B/c it will make you feel better and will make them feel better too. Hang in there! Being a Mom is the hardest job on earth and no one else could do it but you! :)

 

[Lani93]

Jul. 21, 2007 at 4:37 PM

So sorry things seem really tough for u right now. I, too, have moments when I feel exactly like you. I learned by example from my husband that if u need time u simply JSUT TAKEIT! He plans rafting/camping trips, or a day to himself quite often which used to btoher me given I am the SAHM who is with the 5 kids 24/7. So now I tell him w/1 days notice (like he gives me) and tell him I am taking a day or a few hours just for me. No kids, just me. I get my nails done, go see a movie, go to the park (since there are no beaches here) and just think. I started a new group for moms looking for friends, a getaway, a support system. We never kno who we will meet in these groups and if they may live by us to become true fact-to-face friends. I have met the coolest and best ppl here on cafemom. I am here for you grl. As a mom we all feel like you. It doesnt make any of us any less of a mother--only human. If you wanna check our friendship group out pls do. We will all be here to offer you the much needed support you may be looking for. I will message you the link if u are interested, if not that's ok too. Cafemom was made for moms to find support and friends who struggle with motherhood all the same.

Lani93

 

[froghopper]

Nov. 26, 2007 at 2:09 AM hi, i am you...my husband and i work different shifts.  he works 1st and i work 3rd..we only need a sitter for a lil while and it is usually my mil or mom who watches them.  they are in daycare all day friday so that i can go to work and class but besides that either me or hubby are with them.  it sucks for us but its better for the kids.