What to do?

[mom1204]

OK AS A KID MY MOTHER GAVE UP HER 7 KIDS TO HER PARENTS AND WE WERE NOT TO SEE OUR DAD FOR WHAT I HAVE NO CLUE BUT WE WERE ABLE TO SEE HER AND SHE GOES AROUND ACTING AS IF NOT A THING HAPPNED I CAN NOT HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HER BECAUCE WHEN WE ASK HER WHAT HAPPENED WHY SHE DID NOT RAISE US KIDS SHE GETS MAD AND LEAVES WE CAN GO YEARS WITH OUT SEEING HER AFTER WE ASK HER. I THINK SHE SHOULD TELLS US ME AND MY TWIN DID EVEN GET TO KNOW HER UNTIL WE WERE 11 YEARS OLD. SO I THINK SHE SHOULD A LEAST TELL US TWINS WE WERE 3 WHEN SHE LEFT US . OK I HAVE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAD NOW THAT I'M OLDER AND CAN MAKE MY OWN DESIONS WHEN ASKED WHY HE GAVE US UP HE SAID HE DID NOT IT WAS MY MOTHERS DOING  HE TRYED TO GET US KIDS BUT THE COURT WOULD NOT  GIVE US TO HIM BECAUSE HE WAS A SINGLE DAD. WHAT I AM ASKING IS IF I COULD FORGIVE MY DAD SHOULD I FORGIVE MY MOTHER.

[SarahG]

Jan. 30, 2007 at 11:54 AM I'm not quite sure if you should forgive your mother, but my mom kicked me out of the house when I got home from the hospital with my baby because I didn't give her up for addoption  It was hard on me but I got over it and forgave her because she is my mother and now we have a great relationship. But your mom won't even explain why she did what she did. Thats nuts to me she at least owes you that. Your dad at least tried to get you. and has explained that to you..  

[irishtreasure]

Apr. 18, 2007 at 10:33 AM I went thru some serious abandonment issues with my father, I had the chance to confront him and made myself very clear about how I felt after all those years.  It felt good to say it all, I needed too, but then years later I was able to let it go and move on.  I felt better than ever than.  He has chosen again not to be a part of my life but that is his choice.