Long story short...

 My sister cheated on her husband (she'll deny it to his face for life thought). The friend that she confided in went crazy because she has always wanted to get with my sister's husband. She freaked out and told him and my sister denied it all.

This friend of my sister's name I dont know, but HER DAUGHTER"S name is Olivia. I didn't know this when I told my sister I was naming my baby girl (due in two weeks) Olivia months ago.

My sister told me that if I didn't change the name that she "had nothing more to say to me...EVER" over a text. A text! And that was about three 1/2 months ago. And she still won't talk to me. She doesn't pick up her phone, she doesn't call back. She doesn't even ask my mom how I'm doing. I miss my neice and nephew (they're my life). I miss my sister. I'm so hurt and I don't understand why she's being so immature and selfish.

 She cheated on her husband and a crazy woman's DAUGTHER's name is Olivia so I'm supposed to tell my fiance that he can't name his little girl Olivia? I don't think so. That's ridiculous. We had the name picked out for months and it just rolls off our tongues now, that's our daughter's name! Maybe if I had a clue taht my sister would react this way I wouldn't have chosen it but I had no idea. I don't even know that woman...or her kid!

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Jul. 28, 2007 at 3:09 PM

wow.. sorry to hear you are going thru this. my sister and i are in the same type of place.

it's gonna hurt , but i don't think you can do anything to change her outlook. even if you did change the name you were to name your daughter would it change how she is acting? or would act in the future?      this is HER thing. she needs to work thru it. it has nothing to do with you. sounds like YOU  have tried contacting her?   have you tried writing a letter? has your mom tried talking to her on your behalf?  what does anyone else in your family think about this?  the alleged affair aside, what do they think?

it took me about 10 years of trying to have a better relationship with my sister, suggesting counseling for both of us together to have a better relationship. i told her that we have spent the first  38 years of our lives like this i dind't want to spend the next 30+ years like this. but she wasn't having any of it. i can appologize for things she feels i have done wrong to her 20 YEARS AGO..  that i don't even remember..but she says too liitle too late. so it does hurt alot ! but i finally gave up after this past thanksgiving and christmas and puting my dad thru another holiday WITH HER. because i force my dad to have holidays with her bc i think we are family we should be together. but i've had it.. i haven't talked to her since christmas and she hasn't contacted me either. next christmas/thanksgiving no one will be calling her , changing all their schedules to fit hers just so we can all be together and my dad will finally just go to  vegas for the holidays(like he has threatened for the past 16 years since my mom died..lol) and i've always talked him out of it..lol lol. not this year! ok sorry. that was my rant on your post.. ;-\  but as you can see, , it WILL hurt and frustrate you for some time..lol lol

sorry ;... i wish you luck

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Jul. 28, 2007 at 6:30 PM I really don't know what to tell you about this. I can understand she has some kind of emotional connection/dislike to the name oliva, but she should be mature enough to ignore that and accept what you have chosen for your daughters name. I wish I could help you out more...but i really don't know what to tell you

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Jul. 28, 2007 at 10:06 PM hmm i dont know wat to tell you..i guess she dont like the name olivia because it connect her to that women your are talking about..olivia is a nice name though..try to talk to her..tell her how u feel..maybe she will come around..i hope that help hihi..

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Jul. 30, 2007 at 11:07 AM

Some people are sooo selfish!  I bet if you continue to pursue her, she'll eventually get over it.  Just don't give up, sometimes things that we really want/need take a little while to come to us, but don't ever give up!

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Jul. 30, 2007 at 2:56 PM That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! You didn't tell her what to name HER children, did you?  So what if there is a connection there.  It's not like you're naming your daughter after someone who killed her best friend!  It could be worse.  She needs to grow up. 

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