and it's just so intimidating. all those "before baby" pages kill me. i can't really say anything. like "mommy graduated from..." and "after school, she decided to....." then the "mommy's n daddy's story" page. i can't lie. we were stupid kids who met at school and accidentally made a baby. our relationship is far from perfect. it wasn't love at first sight. there was no wedding. we know we're not meant to be. and we can hardly respect eachother. and i just hate that "when we found out about the pregnancy" page. it has lines for what we thought and how we felt and celebrated. i have no idea what to write. i can't let my daughter know that when i saw the positive sign on the pregnancy test at jack in the box during lunch break i cried my eyes out, went crazy on my boyfriend's car, and started looking for abortion clinics. i felt awful and full of regret. i can't write that, but that's how it went. we don't have any family pastimes or vacation memories or traditions or careers. this book is supposed to be a family keepsake, but i have nothing good to start filling it with and it makes me feel so bad.

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momto...
Aug. 5, 2007 at 10:27 PM As far as the when you found about the pregnancy page, just put that you were in shock. Tell her that you were pretty young and didn't expect to become pregnant. But once you saw your daughter in your arms, once you looked into her eyes, it was love at first sight. Be honest, tell her it was the best mistake you ever made and you wouldn't change anything. When she's old enough to read it, she'll appreciate your honesty.

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Aug. 5, 2007 at 10:28 PM Do without the book then, Every kid doesn't have to have a keepsake book!!!! Here's a better idea....Start your own journal about how you feel as a mom, and how much you are grateful to have your baby now! I'm sure since you decided to have your baby, that you are now happy to hold and smile with your baby daily. Even if times are hard, the smell, the smile and comfort of your baby, should be able to bring you to say nice things in this journal. Good Luck and if you don't have much to say in that keepsake book, then get rid of it!! The baby won't know! LOL!!

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Prett...
Aug. 5, 2007 at 10:32 PM I was 17 years old when I got pregnant. I'm now 19 years old with a 17 month old little girl. Best thing that ever happened to me. I know what you mean about the pregnancy book, my mom kicked me out at 5 months, My boyfriend and I fought ALL the time. I had no baby shower, I just felt like no one cared about the baby at all..How do you write all  that in there?  But...It worked at for the best. It doesn't matter what happened in the past or while you were pregnant just as long as your the BEST mother you can be, She'll appreciate that more than anything... Good luck!

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Aug. 5, 2007 at 10:34 PM

I know how impotant a baby book can be, and how much fun it can be to fill it out. So here you go. Here are just a few links I found (I only scanned the front page of each link, so I'm not sure exactly what is there.) for printable baby book pages. You can print them out and when you're done, put them together to make your own book. If you want something a little more professional looking, after you're done filling out her baby book, take it to your local copy store. They can more than likely laminate the pages so they don't get ruined and probably put a spiral binding on it to make it more like a book. Or you can go to Walmart in the kitchen section and buy your own contact paper for about $6.00. Put everything together, 3-hole punch it, and put it in a binder. Get one of those binders with the see-through cover and make your own cover for it. All I did to find these pages was google "printable baby books". One peice of advice, use an acid free marker or pen when you're writing in her book. That way over time, the pages won't yellow from the ink. Also, if you put stickers on the pages, I would make sure those were acid free, for the same reason. Good luck with the book. Let me know how it goes!

 

http://www.babysstory.com/Journal.asp

http://members.tripod.com/bradylake/home.html

http://www.babycenter.com/babybook/

http://www.myalbummaker.com/printable-baby-book-fun.html

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Aug. 5, 2007 at 10:34 PM By a blank scrap book and make a baby book with your own pictures and mementos with the important things that you want to be in it. It doesnt't have to be the traditional baby book. I was all into the baby book for the first year or so, then I got lazy. Instead, a saved a bunch of keepsake items and pictures in a box and plan to make him a scrap book. It doesn't matter where they baby came from or how they got here, just that they are here and they are loved.

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Am17
Aug. 6, 2007 at 11:36 AM honey you need to come over i havnt seen you in forever and yes those pages were the hardest to fill out and i still dont think they are all filled out

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Mrs_r...
Aug. 10, 2007 at 6:46 PM My mom and sperm donor were 14 when i was conceived and 15 when i was born. My mom was straight up with me, they got drunk and screwed in the living room. oh well, hey i was conceived on a drunken stooper, thats friggin' awesome. lol, my mom was like you, she did ok. i was like you, and im doing ok with my 1 yr old.

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MamaCole
Aug. 10, 2007 at 7:01 PM

I was 14 when I got pregnant... alot of the bbay book I have for my daughter isnt filled out in the begining... I mostly wrote in it after she was born. I think I wrote shocked, about when I found out I was pregnant. LIke others said... make your own..its probably more fun that way anyways... like a sracpbook. You can take ideas from the baby book you already have and leave out the parts you dont want to write. You can add pics of you during your pregnancy and stuff. It can probably help keep you occupied too!

Im 19 now.. with a 4 year old daughter.. you will be okay! It just takes time!

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lovem...
Aug. 10, 2007 at 9:28 PM great advice, make your own book. they sell scrap bookin stuff at the dollar tree. go crazy with it and forge t6hte "traditional" books. pssst...**waves hand** come here I got a secret for ya. The stories NEVER go like that. I have never in my life met anyone who planned their pregnancy. Never. Ever. And no matter how old you are no one is ever prepared for a child. It is a learning experince for all of us no matter the age. i look at my 40-something MIL and her 2 yr old and think damn I think I have this parenting stuff down better than they do!

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