How to relax and go with the flow

[sue67]

I suffer with depression and anxiety and need help or advice thats its ok if things don't get done as long as the baby is well taken care of and thats its ok if I don't do housework today and not feel guilty about it. I am not sure if I am making sense or if this is even worth a post but it bothers me so I figured I would give it a try.

[lillpop]

Aug. 24, 2007 at 9:23 AM

    The bottonm line is that the baby is cared for , absolutly . Stop pressuring yourself. Things will get done when they are meant to .

 Ok   feel better now LOL

[ohwrite]

Aug. 24, 2007 at 10:18 AM I struggled with this when my kids were young. First of all, the best gift you can give your kids is to take care of yourself......I'm not very good at this myself.......secondly.......as long as your baby is in a safe and healthy environment, it doesn't have to be perfect. A pile of laundry, clutter here and there, even a sink full of dishes isn't going to hurt anything. I've found that the chaos in my house is directly related to how out of control my life is......I don't know what you're going through right now, but give yourself a break, get up each morning, tackle the things you can in order of priority, and let go of what you can't do. You are only one person you can't do everything. Don't be afraid to ask for help. We went through some major things when my kids were young, and my house was often a disaster.....as was I, thing have a way of sorting themselves out, and if you can take opportunities as they arise to accomplish things and be positive, believe it will get better, it will happen, maybe not quickly but it will. I wish people who knew me 10 years ago, could see me home and life now!!! Is your husband supportive? Do you have family or friends that are supportive?? My friends probably saved my life at times.

[susan4]

Aug. 24, 2007 at 6:46 PM

Sue I know that you have a busy life with your baby,hubby, and work. Don't let housework bother you if it dosen't get done, it will always be there later. My mom always told me I should worry less about the house and enjoy the kids more, I wish I would of listened to her years ago. I finally started doing just that and I feel good about it. I wish I would of enjoyed the kids more when they were younger but I didn't  as much as I could and now my kids are older and you never get those years back. Cleaning can and will wait just get the stuff done that is necessary. I was a compulsive cleaner for much of my life and now I'm laid back and enjoying life more instead of cleaning all the time. You take care of that precious little girl and yourself. Love, Susan