Whaddya do when you wanna kill 'em??

[NaterbugsMom]

And of course, I mean this in all facetiousness.  I would never physically harm my kid, but oh! The times i like to dream of it!!

As a four year old, my baby is aaaaaaaall boy.  And normally, yeah ok, i know this, i'm as ok as i can possibly be about it.  I dunno if its the pregnancy or what, but there are days i just dont have the patience to tell him another 47 times to stop chewing with his mouth open, stop slamming the cupboard doors, stop this, quit that...

Today was one of those days. I took him to a play place (Wildwood Highlands, wildwoodpa.com)yesterday even though i really dont need to be wasting the month, spent some $40 on dinner and play time for him, and I asked him for some time today so Mitch and I could look at some houses together because, uh, we'd like to live together after getting married! We went to a few places today and i tried  not to be unreasonable. Ididnt ask him to sit still or not run around the houses. Hell, i didnt even ask him not to crawl into the cupboards!!  But by the end of the day, i just wanted to string him up by his little cute toenails and devise new tortures to slowly peel him out of his skin and make him behave. 

I feel like a horrible mother sometimes. 

Is one day really too much to ask?? i KNOW he's only 4. And i try to keep that in perspective. 
Ugh. Now i'm just getting frustrated with myself again. 

[SweetlyNumb77]

Sep. 3, 2007 at 12:29 AM Don't beat yourself up over it hunny.... Seriously, sometimes us mom's get just as frusterated and in need of a break as they do. Actually, I think sometimes, we need it a bit more than they do. A lot of it could also be that there's a lot of changes going on now. Before it was just you and him- He didn't have to share Mommy, but now, not only does he have to share you with Mitch but there's also going to be a new baby that he has to share you with as well. Plus, if you're planning on moving too (which it sounds like you are) that's also something else new to him. So with so many changes happening all at once, it's a lot for a young kid to deal with. Sounds to me like he's just trying to deal with it and cope in anyway he knows how. It's actually refered to as Adjustment Disorder- no, it's not anything wrong just means that the kid can't adjust to so many changes at once. It just takes him longer. It's actually much more common that you'd think. I found this out when I took my son into therapy  to see what was going on with him, (Granted he's also ADD and was making much worse statements) but he was still acting out. Come to find out that it was mainly because he didn't want to share mom. Never had to before, why should he have to now? Plus we moved across town so he couldn't go see Papa whenever he wanted, he wasn't 2 blocks away from his best friend, and on top of that, he couldn't even see ANY of his friends at school either because he had to go to a new school. And he was 6 when all this happened. So yeah, don't stress over too much just make sure to set aside some time everyday for just you and him time. It really helps. Plus, maybe talk to him about what's all happening and maybe even let him help name the baby (within reason of course) or when you move let him pick which room he wants to have and which one he wants the baby to have. Just osme ideas. I'm sure you're doing a fabulous job. You're a wonderful mom- just the fact that you're posting this and feeling bad about it shows that. :) Take care hun.