Today I went back to work- First time since I had Cameron.. (he is 10  almost 11 months old) I worried about him all day, thinking he must be so distraught without me.. pining away for his mommy to come back to him.. No way! He had a great time with his Nana while I was gone! I rushed home after 9 hours at work, so excited to see my baby boy- and the first thing I did was pick him up and try to give him a hug- well his just whined and kicked and wiggled til he finally escaped and crawled right back over to his nana! My feelings are hurt. I feel so rejected! Cry

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daede...
Feb. 5, 2007 at 7:25 PM Don't feel bad. It is good that he had a good time and he still loves you the same. He was probably a bit mad at you. Babies show it almost in a way grown up do. He will get used to it. He will be fine.

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doom_...
Feb. 5, 2007 at 7:25 PM I'm sorry but I have to laugh. My son was the same way. My In-laws are VERY active in my children's lives and when Nanny first started babysitting I was hurt and... jealous when he was having so much fun with her and not me. But as he grew older I figured it was awesome. My son didn't stop loving me (your wont either) and it is awesome that he is learning he can love and trust more than just you. My son is now almost four and he loves coming over to Nanny's house, and sometimes when he is over there I have the joy of him calling me and saying "Mommy, I wanna go home with you!"

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jholmes
Feb. 5, 2007 at 7:30 PM It can be a little sad that he didn't spend the day crying for you, however, it is actually a good thing.   It means that you have been doing a good job raising him!!  It is easier said than done, but be glad he is well adjusted...he knows you are coming back for him.  A mother's love can never be replaced...just know that.

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bethe...
Feb. 5, 2007 at 7:35 PM I work at a daycare, in the infant room, and let me just tell you: it's better that way. We had a boy start last week (7 months old), and he cried, no-he screamed all day, every day!!! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I nearly pulled my hair out! His mom, like you, was really worried about him, and called every hour, hour and a half, and it BROKE her heart to hear him crying! If she heard him crying over the phone, she would cry, too. And she cried when she left in the morning, too. I know it upsets you that your son doesn't appear to miss you, but give it some time. Soon he'll be smiling when you pick him up. I promise! Hang in there.

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Loveb...
Feb. 5, 2007 at 8:56 PM Awww! That is EXACTLY why I havn't gone back to work!!! I am SO afraid that my little one wont love me anymore!!!!! But you know he still loves you. He's just probally trying to get back at you for leaving him alone all day!!! lol Give it time, I'm sure he'll miss you more each day! :D

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jodia001
Feb. 5, 2007 at 9:01 PM

It is all part of the process to independence. It is sad as it happens but it is a necessary evil. Instead of looking at it negatively...look at the fact that he is so happy & well cared for with Nana that he felt "mothered" and know that you do not have to worry about how he is being treated.

I am sure that he did miss you.

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AngelaDD
Feb. 5, 2007 at 11:14 PM I know isn't that aweful! My child would rather stay with the Daycare workers than come home with me... it's so insulting. It's worse when his dad comes to pick him up for the weekend and jumps up and down and takes off to hug him and then he won't even give me a kiss or hug goodby just waves and says "BYEBYE" all happy and content....it's soo unfair, I pushed his fat little head out I should get all the love forever!?!?! And even worse when he comes back from his dad's he calls me dada!! When I correct him and tel lhim to say "mama" he just smiles shakes his hhead no and says "DAAAAAADA.." add insult to injury...

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Suthr...
Feb. 6, 2007 at 10:45 AM its hard at first i went back to work after only 6 weeks and still couldn't think of anything else and she is 2 now and still when she is in daycare all i do is think about her but that is what mothers are suppose to do so its just a natural thing but it will get easier but he will always be in your mind

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Daniela
Feb. 6, 2007 at 11:57 AM Aiden is that way with me when he spends the day home with Daddy.... don't worry he still loves you just as much!!!

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