Weaning - Didn't think it would be this hard...

  • February 9, 2007 at 9:23 AM by LundieP
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I'm a bit of a basket case.  I decided yesterday was time to just go ahead and wean my son.  He's 16 1/2 months old.  He only nurses first thing, at naptime, and at bedtime.  It's not really about the milk anymore, as I'm not producing much.

So, yesterday was day 1 and I've been so messed up about it.  Has anyone else had this problem?  I know that I'm unusual in nursing him for so long.  Every one else I know weaned right around 6-9 months.

I know that it's the right time for our family.  It's time to be able to let other people (besides me) put him to bed at night, or put him down for a nap. 

But it's so hard.   I feel like a small part inside me is dying.  Like my usefulness in the life of my son is going away.  He's not a cuddler.  He will sometimes come lean against me while he watches his favorite show, but he doesn't just snuggle.  Nursing was the only time that we had that snuggly closeness. 

But I know, it's not about me.  It's about doing what is best for him, and for our family.  So I am going to be ok. 

Comments:

Xen
I nursed my first to 18mths and my milk supply just stopped (Igot pregnant with #2) I quickly switched her to highly diluted juice in a cup when she wanted to nurse.

Xen Feb. 9, 2007 at 9:32 AM

Holly...

As I am still nursing my 10 month old and will continue to do so until I feel that 'it is the right time for our family', as you said, I know that the same feelings that you're having will come.  It must be so hard, I wish you well.  How is your son doing with the whole thing?  Good luck - Holly

Holly4Jean4 Feb. 9, 2007 at 9:34 AM

smurf...
It's not unusual to nurse him that long.  My frist was breastfed till he was two.  It was so hard to break him...lol  I would start with the morning feeding.  What you can do is verses feeding him first thing in the morning sit with him and share breakfast.  He might throw a fit so be prepared to stand your grounds!  Don't give in!  He will get use to it.  Then as soon as he is use to that start with nap time (maybe about a week later).  So now you are eating breakfast with him and then at nap time try laying with him or patting his butt or something of the sort.  He'll be ok!  Then comes the hard part...bed time.  About a week later or so start on bed time!  I started a bedtime routine like bath, reading him a story and etc. and tucked him in.  It took a little while for him to get use to it but he was weened!  Good luck!

smurfette Feb. 9, 2007 at 9:35 AM

RArno...
I think it was harder on me to wean Mason than it was on him..... I too miss the time we spent together cuddleing.

RArnold18 Feb. 9, 2007 at 1:20 PM

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