im tired of bitching to get a little help

[brandnumom07]

my bf acts like taking care of the baby is solely my responsibility if i dont bitch and complain about needing some help with her. i dont know how many times that i have expressed that being a mom can get overwhelming and if he would just do little things like get up to warm the bottle at night or do a couple of feedings during the day to give me a break how grateful i would be. he does good for a couple of days if i go into complete bitch mode on him, but then its like he says okay thats good enough and goes back to acting like he cant hear her crying or that he doesnt know what he's doing, which is bullshit because he has two year old twin boys, he should know somehting about how to take care of a baby. i know that many women have said the same thing about their men, but im just sooo frustrated and im actually thinking about leaving his ass and going back to live with my mom, She has been a BIG help, but living with her isnt all that peachy either. i dont know what to do. maybe i'll try to get a place of my own thats close to my mom's. right now i just feel like i would be better off by myself, since im doing everything anyway. yeah he pays for diapers and wipes, but so can his child support. im just tired of having to say the same things over and over and him acting clueless to why im soooo pissed off. i hate feeling like im stuck and that all my options to change my situation suck because i havent started working yet and dont have a car so i feel like i have to depend on others just to do simple things like go get toilet paper. i was recently in a car accident and suffered some neck and shoulder injuries, so im hoping that the money i get from that will be enough for me to get on my feet and become an INDEPENDENT WOMAN. whoever believes in the power of prayer, pray for me PLEASE.

[shell81]

Sep. 23, 2007 at 11:05 AM hey if you were in a reck and can't work right now then applly for disability you could get it then until you can get a job or get better about the bf then tell him straight out you need help or you are thinking about leaving if he comes back w well then leave i would then that means he don't give a shit - i wish you luck and hope everything works out for you - and about the child support would he really pay the courts sometimes wait forever to lock them up here it is like 10,000 they wait till you are that far behind so don't always depend on that

[essencemom]

Sep. 24, 2007 at 9:53 AM

Praying for your health and healing of mind, spirit, body, and relationship!  You have all that you need - the strength, the wisdom, the courage...to do all you need to for you and your child. God chose you for her mother-no mistakes.  Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed, I whisper these well-known words to God:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Start each day new, let go of the anger and disappointment  from yesterday-its the past, and your past does not shape your identity-unless you let it.  Blessings to you- strong, empowered mama!

Grace, Peace and Ashe my friend!

[mamabrown87]

Oct. 17, 2007 at 12:12 PM

I think that if your bf is the father then he needs to step to the plate. I know if my man ever did that he wouldn't just see me bein a bitch. he'd see me pack up the baby and myself...(if i had a baby) I would tell him that intl he becomes a man and grows real balls then he can pay child support and let him read this song :

i've got her photograph on  a stand by my bed

two on the mantel

and thousands in my head

i can't believe how fast she's growin

it ain't supposed to be like this

everytime i look at her i see how much i've missed

i missed her first steps

her first words

i love you daddy  something i seldom heard

oh it hurts me so

to watch my girl grow

up in pictures

i send the money down

do the best to do my part

but it can't compare with  to  what i pay with my heart

there's still one unanswered question

that wieghs heavy on my mind

will she ever understand the reasons why

i missed her first steps

her first words

i love you daddy something i seldom heard

oh it hurts me so

to watch my girl grow

up in pictures

takes all i have to keep the tears inside

what i wouldn't give if i could turn back time

i missed her first steps

her first words

and i love you daddy

something i seldom heard

oh it hurts me so

to watch my girl grow

up in pictures