Does Therapy Work?????

[TanyaVP]

Hello everyone...I am new on this site...I Have a question to ask and I would appreciate any feedback.

I haven't had a chance to go though the threads on this site...I just happened to stumble upon it.  I am a newlywed (married in Jan of this year).  My husband and I met in Oct of 06 and married shortly after.  We have a 12 yr age difference and of course some marriage issues.  Him and I are highly stressed, I try not to take my work home with me but I have a demanding job.  My husband has 2 very time consuming business's in which takes time away from us. I know he is just planning for our financial future, but we do have thar under control. We try to spend as much time together but we have been not getting along.  We have an appointment with a well known therapist this coming thursday because we are not able to solve our problems ourselves. 

I have 2 issues with him that he just won't understand.  (i hope i don't offend anyone)...

1)  It is always my fault, he can never be wrong...People do not know we are married, just are close family.  He wants to throw this huge event which he states is my responsibility...I think he should help me plan. I told him why are we waiting if we can't plan it, lets make it small and invite the people we care about.  He basically does nothing.  I know he loves me and I know he is proud to be with me, but he doesn't want to tell his business partners because it makes him look like he takes risky moves. He introduces me as his fiance or girlfriend.  We have already gone to the point of threatening eachother with the D word.  It's constant fighting, and he can never admit when he is wrong.  I admit I have severe PMS but I Always feel like a target to him.  He is a great man and he will be a wonderful father, but he frustrates me.

2) I have to beg for sex.  I have a high sex drive and I want it all the time.  It is not like he is old.  He has a problem getting it up.  It takes me at least 15-30 min and if he does it's a good day.  I need it a lot, I love it and it is horrible when i feel deprived of it.  He says maybe if your nice i will do it.  What is this...a reward...???  I knew he had this problem the first time we made love, I didn't know it would always be like this.  He says I am the one with to high of a sex drive.  I always feel like I am the one doing all the work

FYI.  I was in a long termer before and we neverwould fight and the intimacy was amazing.

And I know there is 2 sides to every story...there is a lot missing but i needed to vent between meetings

To sum it up...does therapy work...

Any suggestions

-Sincerely    Frustrated