So a year ago today is when my life changed for good. At the time I thought it was for the worse and who wouldn't when your 7 months pregnant and your husband comes up to you and says he has fallen out of love with you and wants to take some "time to figure out what is wrong with him." When in reality I found out later that morning after our little talk about trying to do a trial seperation, that in fact it was infidelity on his end and I found out. I normally don't check his phone, but he received a text message 1st this in the am, I thought it was odd, saw it was from one of his coworkers and low and behold what i found crushed me.

So after my heart was broken and a couple days of putting up with his bs I stood up for myself and kicked his sorry butt out the door, 7 months pregnant and all and that was the best thing I ever did.

I went thru the pain and the hurt and doubted myself. But as the days and weeks went on it proved to be the best decision of my life. I decided to file for divorce on my birthday after a "lovely" phone call I received from him and to be honest it was one of the hardest choices I ever had to make, but I am very happy I did it.

So yes I may be a single parent, I may have gone thru the last part of my prenancy by myself. But it gave me time to heal and to become a better person. I realize now that i am happier with out him and as I have read my journal from years ago in the lots of spare time I had while being pregnant and alone I had mentioned once that I don't think we will work out because we were just too different. So I think I always knew that this would come about.

But this past year has brought about  many things. A divorce from my husband, a realization to finally pick out a bachelors and work towards it because now I have a real reason why I should pursue it and stick to it. I need to provide a better life for myself and especially for my son. I now know what i won't settle for or deal with anymore and above all I am happy.

 

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MSuga...
Oct. 8, 2007 at 11:59 AM You are a strong woman and stay that way!  Once a cheater, always a cheater!

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frees...
Oct. 8, 2007 at 11:12 PM

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 

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momofmn
Oct. 14, 2007 at 7:52 PM May I just say that your story can surely inspire me in knowing I too can make it through.....

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