I will NOT tolerate hate on this site

[pdxmilf]

I'm a pretty tolerant person and I believe in "to each his own"....but my limit has been crossed on Cafemom.

Let this be an open letter to each Cafemom member;  if I see a posting that encourages or promotes hate, I will report you to the site moderators. I found myself responding with anger towards a poster and am kicking myself for doing so. What I should have done was just report them and be done with it.

 I feel strongly that everyone should be able to express themselves freely and share their perspectives and opinions about any subject matter be it spiritual belief, political belief, child rearing methods, etc. But I have seen too many "moms" on this site attack other members for their self-expression. I have read postings that encourage hate towards a specific faith. I've seen postings that cast slurs against someone's political belief.

I don't want to see this anymore.

To help each member keep this mindful, I'm posting a few of the community guidelines:

Be respectful of others, especially when disagreeing with them.

Debate is great, but it should be done in a constructive way.

Don’t harass or personally attack others.

No ganging up.

Slurs, stereotyping, and hate speech are not tolerated.

If you’re going to post something controversial, be prepared for others to disagree with you and your ideas.

After reading this, it seems ridiculous that the site creators felt the need to produce guidelines.

Are we children or adults?

 

 

[RachaelsRecipes]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 4:04 PM It's my blog, I'll do what I like, I'll say what I like, and I'll express myself as I wish. If *you* don't like it, don't read my blog. Easy as that!

[lillpop]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 4:05 PM

  This has been posted  HUNDREDS of times, unfortunatly you are not gonna change the world, people have bad days, people have hard lives and are miserable, and Unfortunatly even Knasty comments are protected under Freedom of speech.

 While it woule be NICE, if everyone was NICE thats just not reality.

  Good luck though and good post

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 4:22 PM

Quoting RachaelsRecipes: " It's my blog, I'll do what I like, I'll say what I like, and I'll express myself as I wish. If *you* don't like it, don't read my blog. Easy as that! "

As I said in my journal Rachael, if it's in violation of the Cafemom Guidelines, I'll report it. After witnessing someone attempting to incite the hate of others towards specific Cafemom members,  I got angry. If you posted something asking that others harass another member due to their religion, I'd report it.  The posting that started all this has been removed  by Cafemom moderators.

That kind of posting is fine on RnR's on Craigslist but not here.

(Original Poster)

[ckarmadillo]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 4:28 PM Things like this should not come out of our mouths. We need to learn to live by "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Be nice. Please. Learn to love not hate. Please

[RachaelsRecipes]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 4:28 PM

IF someone ticks me off, if I'm having a bad day, I'm gonna blog about it. It makes *me* feel better.

If *you* have nothing better to do than police CafeMom, *looking* for trouble, my sympathies are with you.

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 4:37 PM

Wow Rachael, so you're supportive of hate? I have no issue with someone venting of blowing off steam but inciting hate?  You would be supportive of someone distributing an email that requested others harrass a single Cafemom member due to her spiritual faith and nothing else?

The antagonizer admitted to have been just cruising the profiles and to quote her, " don't like the looks of this n****r she should go back to Africa where she came from. Help me let her know her and her kind aren't welcome in Christian America."

You support that?

(Original Poster)

[SingleMamaof1]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 5:26 PM This post shouldn't even be popular.  All you've done is started trouble by stating that you will report them if they incite hate, etc....Why not just keep that to yourself and privately report them?  Did you really have to post about it and get others all riled up? 

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 9, 2007 at 5:33 PM

Everyone here has a right to express themselves and I welcome comments, for or against. Privately report them? Sure I can do that but I'm not one to hide or hide my feelings.

(Original Poster)

[RachaelsRecipes]

Oct. 16, 2007 at 7:23 PM

If you don't like what I say in MY journal entries, you are more than welcome to skip them.

I don't promote hate, never have, never will. However, that being said, if I don't like something and I journal about it, whether it's about welfare fraud, illegal immigration or politics, if you don't like what I say, don't read it. Skip it. They're *my* thoughts and I do believe the First Amendment *still* protects my freedom of thought and speech, correct?

 

[pdxmilf]

Oct. 17, 2007 at 6:00 PM

wickedannabella said " If you don't want hate...stop creating people hating you.  YOU stir the pot...passive-aggressive in nature and stand back and watch the sparks fly. Don't create the hate and you won't get it.

If this posting were simply a general statement that you were making, I'm in agreement but it's more than that, it's directed to me personally. If you read previous postings in this string, then you would have realized that I NEVER stated that anyone was being hateful towards me but rather another Cafemom member was attempting to incite hatred towards another member due to her ethnicity and used hateful racial slurs in doing so.

That is something I will not tolerate. That was the point of the original post.

(Original Poster)