Love is not a feeling but a choice!

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This was for the youth girls at our church back in 2006

LOVE...is a choice

You know the saying "If I knew then what I knew now"

I see a lot of bulletins and blogs about love about sex and about Guys need to know this stuff about Girls.  And a lot of it really hurts my heart.  I haven't really posted a blog about what Christ is doing in my life right now.  Or even my testimony. Most of you know me but not all of you know what I've gone through in life to be where I am now.  I do want to share stuff that has been in my heart. 

 I wish you can see the way I see things one day you will but some of you will not I still have "friends" Who still think its cool to show off your midriff at church when they are 20 yrs old.   A lot has to do with age and trying to fit in. or feeling you need to impress the opposite sex.  Some of you might be thinking well your married now you don't need to impress anymore and once I get married I will be where you are.  No that is not true you don't wake up one day saying "I'm going to be modest"  If your dressing like a slut your going to get a guy who wants a slut.  Luckily I figured this out at Bible college (I was 17) when you have a lot of people holding you accountable for the things you wore.  ~thanks~ And I still struggle wanting to fit back into my outfits and wanting my 16 yr. old body back. 

Its funny all those people I tried to fit in with and be accepted by where are they now?  Will they be at your funeral?  I remember high school it was like my world I know to some of you feel that now. Even college was its own little world but I learned so much about life there.  but temptation is even in a bible college. 

Love is not a feeling or an emotion it is an action it is a choice! I hate seeing teenagers saying I love you to each other and yes I did it too but like I say if I knew then...   My husband never told another girl that he loved her.   when he proposed would be the 1st time he'd say it.  and he kept to it, if he could why cant others?  how can people who are not married get to say the same words as a married couple?  when as a married couple are there through sickness of throwing up at 2 in the morning to cooking dinner to folding clothes finding lost shoes to running back to the store for the 3rd time because the wrong stuff was bought.  But those who are dating think they are in love and that makes my heart sad seeing 16 yr. olds saying I love you.  I'm not against dating ... how can you marry someone you never dated?

Love is Being patient when he tries to put something together and it takes a long time and you know you can do it in 10 SEC but you let him anyway.  It's kind after he made you white clothes pink in the wash.  it is not being jealous when he drives the newer car.  it does not make him feel insecure about his accomplishments.  Its not being rude on the 6th time asking him to do something you've already asked 5 times.  You don't get mad when he doesn't sit by you or call you.  Love is when he comes home and prays with you, when he's asked how your walk in the Lord is    I never knew what love was until I was married.

[GrowingMama]

Oct. 11, 2007 at 12:39 AM Great post! And oh, so true!

[freegrl]

Apr. 30, 2008 at 5:51 PM yep...

[FriendlyJas]

May. 13, 2008 at 6:25 PM I agree. So many people think love is that butterflies in your tummy feeling. Thay feeling isn't always there, but it doesn't mean you don't love them.

[blg119]

May. 28, 2008 at 3:36 PM So true! Amazing post!

[Roosbabe]

Nov. 15, 2008 at 7:26 PM

Good post.  I'm so happy for you that you have found the guts to make that day in day out choice.

[MemawBrie]

Nov. 15, 2008 at 7:32 PM

There are only two kinds of women men want...those they want to get into bed and make them a notch on their belt, and those they want to marry, and respect.